Calling 4 times in a row

I mean is it something time sensitive or just like he wants to chat and you can’t answer right then?

I mean I try to always answer my husbands calls. But he only calls me for “important” things. Sometimes only important to him, I will admit. But he wanted to tell me something, so I want to listen or try to care 🤣

But like if I was busy, or say I’m changing a diaper and he calls 4 times in a row. Yes, I’ve been like WHAT?! 🥹

but then I’ve also set my phone down when he’s at the store and trying to call me for something to be specified or whatever. And I’ve seen 8 missed calls for that 🤣🫣

But if it’s just calling you quite often for a little chat. And you’re busy, and it’s nothing important, but he just calls repeatedly every time. No… I get the annoyance.

Depends what he's calling for. I will ring my partner several times if I need an answer for something urgently. I do send a text and let him know why I am ringing so he doesn't panic and also SO HE ANSWERS 😂.
If you think he's being a bit possessive or something then I don't agree. If he's ringing and ringing and getting annoyed and then overthinking it's cos you're with someone then it's bad. He should respect your request not to do it though, I think that's fair enough.

So he calls to basically say hello and ask what me and our daughter are up too!
He calls early morning/lunchtime and tea time (he works 12 hours a day) I totally get he wants to check in on our daughter but sometimes its like wtf..you spoke to me 2 hours ago 🤯
He definitely calls out of boardem sometimes which i totally also get but I literally said last week to stop calling over and over when I dont first answer!!!!

If my husband did that it's only because someone has died 😅

My husband does this as well lol. I think in my situation it’s because I’m a sahm and usually I answer his call after 1 ring so if I don’t answer right away he gets worried something happened to me lol. I don’t mind it tbh, it honestly makes me feel good that he cares, he gets super anxious about my kids and I while he’s at work so he checks in on us a lot especially if he knows I’m taking them out to the park or something
However… I do also understand being annoyed by it because some times I’m in the middle of everyone having a meltdown or changing diapers and he calls I swear at the worst time all the time and I definitely get irritated when my phone is ringing like crazy but I’m preoccupied with something else

literally . i’ve never understood people who do that because if i don’t answer
the first time , what makes you think im going to answer the next 3 times 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

My child’s dad does this. It really irritates me, so I block him and then he just does the same off a withheld number, and it’s never important, it’s just because he has anxiety and externalises it onto others to manage. It’s grating 😒

If only I was at work... There's a poster on the back of the toilet door that would give you your answer to this. It's sounds like coercive behaviour and abusive.

Does it help if you send a quick text after you missed his call.

Time to have a talk with him about this.
Because obviously you are busy through out your day and can't always answer the call.

He sounds needy and controlling. I'd sit him down for a serious chat about boundaries!

I hate this my aunt does this and one of my friends
So I told them many times but they don’t listen I think the got used to me replaying quickly
So now I start to not answer the phone even if I can so they get used to me not answering lol

it's not the calling, it's ignoring how you feel about it. My husband and I would frequently miss each others calls and messages at work so would both keep trying until we caught each other, one day I had 17 missed calls and I'd tried him 8 times 😂 but that was what we'd agreed and normal for us. Different couples will do it differently, it's not what method or frequency you use, it's the fact that you explicitly said "this makes me anxious and unhappy please don't do it" and he ignored you 🚩

He me be anxious.