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My husband and I have a 2 month, almost 3 month old, and he doesn’t want us to go to Ash Wednesday mass this evening. I’m distraught because it’s our baby’s first Lenten season and I don’t understand why he doesn’t want us to go to church.

I know I’m obligated to listen to my husband but I’m torn and feeling angry being kept from mass and it’s our baby’s first Ash Wednesday also.

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Your husband has no right to tell you that you can’t go to Mass. Unless he has a good reason, I would go with my baby alone if he doesn’t want to go.

What do you mean you’re obligated to listen to your husband? A marriage is a partnership and I don’t think God would want you to be obligated to listen to your husband when he’s actively denying you you’re right to your spiritual practice. That makes zero sense.

Ash Wednesday is catholic holy day of obligation, your husband doesnt get to override that. He'd have to confess he missed a holy day of obligation intentionally. Go without him 💕.

Ny husband went without me and the kids today because the kids and my newborn are all snotty nosed and sick.

Going to mass as a family should be a priority to your hubby. Ash Wednesday is such a beautiful mass. If you can’t make it or someone doesn’t feel good that’s different but I’ve definitely gone without my hubby before because of sickness

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