I need someone to talk to …..please

Im looking for a stranger I can have real, deep, hard conversations with. Someone who is nice but also blunt and will lay it all out for me. I need help mentally. My depression comes in waves. Sometimes I feel so grateful for life and everything in it. Then one day I wake up and all of a sudden I feel like a dead weight, a robot in my own life. I hate my job , I hate the way I am and most of the time I don’t feel strong enough to overcome anything . I take medication but I can’t tell if it’s working . I beat myself up all the time over everything . I’ve tried positive affirmations , I know I need to change my thought process , I take medication, but it’s all easier said than done and I don’t know how to make it stop. I do nothing but sleep as often as I can, sometimes forcing myself to nap just because I want to get away from everything but I hate it . I hate that I’m like this, I don’t know how to make it stop. I feel like my family don’t really understand. Some of them just have that suck it mind set and others just tell me everything I’m feeling is valid . But like it so hard for me and I don’t know why. Everyone else has hard lives too, some way harder than mine and they can still get through daily stuff , why can’t I ? Everything I do either overwhelms me instantly or makes me what to shut down. What’s wrong with me ? I have a three year old son and I want so much better for him. He deserves a better mentally stable mother and it makes me so sad everytime I think about it. I yell at him too much , I don’t have the energy or want to play with him like almost never. Why is it like this ? Someone please tell me what to do . I don’t know anymore. I feel like I’ve tried but nothing I try ever sticks .

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What’s your passion 🤷‍♀️🫶

Well I thought my passion was baking . I think it still is . But most of the time baking just stresses me out . It’s complicated . I’m not really sure I have any passions. I have things I am interested in sometimes but they all cost money to do or invest in and I’m too broke all the time to do anything

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Have you tried giving it to God? All your stress, struggles, worries? You can download the "You Version" app. It has helped me, I was in the same boat you are in. It's a process but you just have to keep on it everyday and include your children. My son has severe ADHD and I pray for him every night, I've decided to go ahead and put him on medicine though because he has been so violent.

Hi your post sound like me a year ago. Have you heard of borderline personality disorder? I have this and audhd. The councilling I have for bpd really helped in all areas of my life.... Maybe something to look into?

Maybe you could do a project involving baking like teaching and getting tips ?

You can message me :)

You can message me anytime you want! No judgment here! Always always willing to talk! 🫶🏼
What about the gym? I know it seems daunting but honestly you feel like you’ve accomplished something, you feel determined and stronger and better. It lifts your mood!
Surround yourself with positive people!

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