Any suggestions for 0 energy days?

Anyone struggling with chronic illness/tiredness? My little one is 18 months and is really preferring his dad over me these days because dad has so much more energy to play and read and do things...
I'm unsure what's happening to me but I've never felt so depleted. Maybe it's just being with a toddler 24/7 and being woken multiple times a night every night. My partner can stay up until midnight watching TV whereas I'm exhausted by 9:30 and try and go to bed as soon as little man does which can be quite late some evenings. I'm a high sleep needs person but this is just ridiculous...just spending all day yawning and trying to play lying down games with him!

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I think it's time for dad to step up in your son s care. If you are in charge of everything exhausting that's normal that you have nothing left for the nice stuff.... Your partner should take on the night wakes. Also have a blood test. Maybe you have a lack of something in your body pp.

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Could be any number of reasons. You might want to bring it up to your doctor so they can check things like your thyroid, iron levels, or any other medical conditions that can cause fatigue. If it’s a new development, could there be a possibility that you’re pregnant?

But being with a toddler all day everyday and woken up multiple times a night every night can absolutely be a factor too, especially if it’s been like this the past 18 months. Are you able to get out of the house and do something just for your own self-care? Or let the dad have a whole day with your kid so you can focus on resting?

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Why isn't your partner doing the nighttime stuff if he stays awake that late?

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Sounds like me especially when I worked full time in London when my Son was 10months. Magnesium helped with deeper sleeps as it relaxes me and gradually prioritising house work and rest more but it’s hard and everyone’s situation is different. You need time alone and real time alone without a phone just me time while your hubby has baby. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or if you can go up to bed earlier to get extra hours of sleep during the week. Hope you feel better soon x

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