Clingy toddler

My boy was 2 in November. He doesn’t go to nursery as we moved house and the waiting list was so long in the area, I stay at home with him & have recently had a new baby in November! My boy has always been pretty shy but it’s so bad it’s making me cry 😩

We have always gone to playgroups and stuff, most days we are at things but he’s always been the same! However recently it has gotten so much worse. We just left a gymnastics class as he just sat in the corner watching and sulking so overwhelmed. We went to the park yesterday and he stood in the corner watching also!

I don’t know what to do! I feel like I’ve held him back in some way but I try every single day to go out to socialise him! Maybe it is just his personality? Anybody else have a similar toddler?

At home he is great, funny and cheeky and loud! But with other people he is so shy! He is so intelligent - loves numbers, ready and letters. But socialising he is not a fan!

in our community

NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

He has no respect for anything to do with me.

Husband and I decided to separate 3 days ago. I've been sleeping on the floor in the kids room, and we both have to stay in the same apartment for a while. He wont stop pushing little things and I am reaching my limit. Photos in comments

Toddlers

How often are your toddlers asking for food? My oldest who is 3 just finished a whole plate of food and not even 10 minutes later he’s requesting more food. I know he’s going through a growth spurt, but how do you respond to this.

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!