There is lots of conflicting advice online. What helps from your experience?
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For me personally,because i understand all children respond differently.
I stay calm,get lower physically to his level,(sit on the floor ),be present but i don’t try to stop him.almost like waiting a storm to calm .
If he wants a hug I offer but i don’t force anything just staying present emotionally and physically.

I always try to talk her through it so we can both understand what emotions she’s feeling and why. I’ll offer her a hug but if she wants to just scream after that, she can scream. We’re not a household that expects a toddler to be quiet. She tends to happy scream a lot and I love it

Depends on the type of screaming. If it's a meltdown, comfort, hugs, soothing, then talking through it once she calms down.
If it's a tantrum, ignore it, hold the boundary, don't give in.
If it's just fun noise for the sake of making noise, a reminder for inside voices, and reinforcing how we actually speak to people, often with examples of what to say instead.

I try to help her calm down: give her hugs, ask her to take deep breaths, if she’s screaming just to be loud I tell her that I can’t understand her when she’s screaming and to try again, I’ll ask her if she’s done screaming (she usually tells me “I’m done screaming” and then she’ll talk to me more normally). She is pretty good at helping herself calm down though (even better than I am). Hugs/comforting her usually works the best and she calms pretty quickly because she feels safe

I’m just honest with them, “that hurts us, can you please keep your voice down out here or go play in your room & be as loud as you want”. My hubs has a condition where certain pitches throw him into instant vertigo, from the bone in his skull behind his eardrums eroding away, the pitch is this scream, then I also have chronic pain issues, so naturally we’ve had lots of honest conversations & we also read books such as ‘why does mommy hurt’.
I’m also ND, same as my kids, I basically wear my XM4’s 🎧 24/7, so our 4yo is allowed to be louder during the day when dad isn’t around & my teen has headphones too.

Thank you!

Definitely depends on why he’s screaming. This morning my kid was screaming because I gave him food and forgot to give him water. He screamed until we figured out why. Sometimes he’s just loud and we tell him to stop.