10 week old inconsolable

Hi all, I’ve had such a stressful day so just thought I’d come on here and see if this seems to be normal or if I should be worried. My little boy turned 10 weeks yesterday and is really chill and happy on the whole, he usually only cries when hungry or tired. And not like a loud screamy cry either!

Today he’s been more fussy than usual, and out of the blue he started crying so loudly like he was scared or something and it went on for about half an hour- me and my partner tried everything to calm him! Usually he’d accept boob to cheer him up if he ever cries but he even refused it and was doing like an angry cry when I offered it. It was horrible he was shaking and going so red in the fact, I’ve never seen him like this ever!!!! I was getting really upset and worked up because of it so I guess that didn’t help.

In the end we got him in the shower and he stopped instantly! Cried a little when getting out but he then took the boob and is now asleep.

My partner said not to worry and thinks it’s down to development and I agree but as a FTM I can’t help but worry still. He’s asleep next to me rn and I’m just watching him!! Anyone else been through a similar situation? I do hope this doesn’t happen again, I can’t stand seeing him like that when he’s such a happy and chilled out baby usually 😭💔

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Is this the first time he’s cried like that ? What time was this ? Could have been abit of trapped wind ? Or he was overstimulated and had a spike in hormones which the shower gave a distraction from to like calm him , it could of been anything to be honest ,from painful gas to being bored my little girl every so often has a crying match for about an hour usually at nighttime tho xx

My 11 week old has been like this today, no advice but I feel you it's awful and so draining and upsetting x

Ours was EXACTLY the same, you’ll probably find my post from a while back asking the same questions! 😂 Turns out it’s a leap behaviour! He’s back to normal now, it lasted probably about three days! What we did was lots of cuddles and tried to anticipate his needs - put him down for a nap more often and offered boob before he was v hungry! Once the crying starts, it’s more difficult to help! He now properly grabs things, little rattles, sleeves, and reaches out to touch my face with intent! So this is something to look forward to at the end of this battle haha Good luck! X

This sounds like a totally normal development leap. It can be super overwhelming and stressful in the moment but remember it's just a phase. You can always try baby wearing and going for a walk to help ground yourself as well as baby. My little girl had 2 weeks of this when she was a baby and honestly it was the worst 2 weeks for us. Nothing helped. We ended up going for a walk one night at 10pm and didnt get home till gone midnight just do she would settle. Admittedly we did play pokemon go the whole time 😂 but it took her a while to settle. My little boy is yet to go through this but i really hope its not as long as hers

My 14 week old is usually pretty chilled..normal grizzling when tired hungry etc. But then every so often something will make him so upset..proper tears and screaming..was awful and I thought he was hurt or ill but nothing obvious so I think its just him! I guess its his way of telling me that in that moment he was very very sad!

Is he colicky?you think? Well can breast fed babies get colicky too ? I’m not sure . Mine was a huge purple cryer. Sounds terrible but every night I was having to google how to sooth a baby because with a purple cryer I was clueless. My daughter wasn’t like him . All she wanted to do was sleep lol

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