Weaning my toddler

This is a very emotional one. I have breastfed my child for 16 months, on demand. I wanted to stop at 12 months but I listened to my mother, who is not helping rn because she doesn't get it. A part of me resents myself for not going with my original plan and standing firm on business.

I am in raging anger as I type this. I am attempting to wean my child from breastfeeding and they cried heavily. It was painful to witness. It's not their fault, but I don't know what do to make this transition easier for us both. My child mostly, because I cannot stomach listening to them cry. No matter how much I try to convince myself that this is for their own good. Is it really though? Why am I feeling like I am punishing my child? As an FTM and a solo parent, I have pretty much winged my whole parenting. I hate my life right now and it is not that I hate being a parent or that I feel like giving up. I just need something tangible that I can have control over.

I am asking for help. I need your help please. All advice and guidance is welcome because if I hear my mother's voice one more time, all the lava in hell will reach mass.

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Oh babe I don’t have advice but i am so so sorry, you’re not punishing your child for wanting to stop breastfeeding, you have done absolutely phenomenally to continue for such a long time. You should feel such a huge achievement, not guilt! I have had many thoughts of stopping too but I can’t bear the crying so I can COMPLETELY understand how you’re feeling, it’s so so tough. You’ve done amazing my love, if you want to stop then you just need to hold strong and know it will get easier with time. Best of luck, you should be proud xxx

Don't feel bad! We all have our boundaries. I am currently planning to stop BF as well. There are 2 approaches really. Going cold turkey and you just stop one day, but cries and tantrums are to be expected and your breasts will be big and painful - unless you get a pill from GP to stop lactation. Or gradually. Explain to your LO that mummy is tired and milk is for little babies whilst your babe is a toddler now and that milk will only be (X and Y times a day) I stopped giving the boob at night while back, bow only once a night or none and she's used to it, sometimes cries a little but stops quick. Not sure how will I stop completely but gradually.

I defo know how you feel on the mothers massively overstepping! Feel like I haven’t made any decisions for my kid since we split and I moved back home! Awful isn’t it! I’ve managed to find an apartment we can go to but it’s borderline to being in budget but ehhhhhh I’m going completely cuckoo “hAvE yOu TrIeD tAlKiNg To HeR” why no Sandra I definately didn’t let me try that 🤣

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