Help with the baby

How are your partner/husbands with helping out with the baby?
I just feel like my partner isn’t doing enough and he makes me feel like I’m overreacting when I mention anything and it’s seriously getting me down. He works night shifts but tends to come home around 1/2 in the morning then straight on the Xbox until 7 in the morning then doesn’t wake up until 3 then back at work for 6. I basically feel like I’m solo parenting at this point. If I bring anything up all his excuse is that he works and is tired. I have to ask him to do things for me with the baby he doesn’t necessarily go out of his way to do them. Am I overreacting? because he does work hard and I am at home all the time but being a full time mum is hard work too.

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Clean home

Has anyone reached a point where they want to go to their husbands MUM for help about speaking to him about taking care of the home?! He litters the entire house and he huffs and puffs when I MAKE him clean up after himself, do the dishes or load/unload a wash. He argues I’m a stay at home mum but that is not the point the man is old and grown to recognise daily living tidiness and cleanliness. Does anyone even have any advice because he thinks maintaining the home is SOLELY my job as I’m stay at home. I’ve got my young children to clean up after themselves even the 6 yo washes his plate after eating. I feel like it’s creating this monster in me because I live with a feral man. I need advice because I swear to god I will look crazy for leaving a man because he doesn’t tidy up.

How to get toddler to tell us they need the potty?

We started potty training Saturday. For reference, my daughter is 2y 9m.

I put her straight into pants, no trousers on and set the timer for 20/25 minutes and then told her it was time for the potty when it bleeped. She then sits on the potty for around 3-5 minutes. She's doing amazing but struggling to get her to tell us herself when she needs to go without relying on the timer.

Does it just click and they tell you? I know it's only been 48 hours so far but just cautious.

Potty training

Hi! Can someone please suggest how did you potty train your little one. Currently, i bought the seat that goes on top of our toilet but little one doesn’t sit still on it and gets scared.

I’m just so confused about the whole process like do i also then need to keep him nappy free? How to avoid accidents? Or what are the potty training pull ups for etc?

The battle of today is this…. I want to hear your thoughts. Women are struggling partly because of the very thing we’re doing. ⬇️

This is not your slavery era like we talk about in history class, this is the age of internet slavery for women.
Women are becoming an object and we are letting it happen. Stand up for yourself, stand up for your families… because this is one major thing that needs to change!!

The more we give away food the more we attract the wolves of the woods. The want and need to have more for what is presenting itself as available.

The men and husbands of today are complaining about their wives because they think the wives should be doing this or doing that… but we are here wondering the same thing about them. We know what they are watching we know what women are doing to make a living… if prostitution is illegal then even sites like OF should be illegal. They may not be physically touching the women but it does the same for men. Models made money to show off clothing for women. But what made these models rich?? Looking sexy and women wanting to look sexy. We buy the clothes, men buy the images. My husband is so upset that women think they run the world, we don’t run the world… we’re entertainment for the men and we are literally slaves. We work to make them happy in so many areas. The sexy women get praised and appreciated while the ones that don’t “look good” get put down for their efforts to be somebody just like the rest of the women. We are fighting to be treated equal while the battle is literally against men and the sexual industry. If women stopped letting men see them naked and view images of half naked women daily the world would be so different. Men would have to be nice to their wives to get what they wanted everyday. Men would have to appreciate the work that we do, that is not sexual, in order to get sex. Think of it like this If you give a wolf his dinner and he’s full everyday then he will have no reason to go on a hunt to search for it and earn it himself. Thats why dressing modest should be more of an everyday thing for us… you need to make your future husband see you before… he “sees you.”
Women that use OF, or women that dress exposing their body in very sexual ways especially on the internet, I’m speaking to you, this is not what we want.

Being more like Jesus has never made more sense to me… be more like him. Peace will come to the people who put effort in. Follow his word and his guidance. Don’t let the worldly things consume you for it is of the devil and will destroy you. And It is destroying the world….

My husband

This is going to be a little tmi with my husband but yesterday I layed my son down for a nap while my husband was in the with him because we have a one bedroom apartment and my son is 6 almost 7 months old. Well I was playing a game on TV after I heard him go to bed for maybe five-ish minutes, after those five-ish minutes I went to go double check on him double check that he was actually asleep and that my husband is not playing with him so he can actually sleep in his crib. I walk into the room door was already open checked on him. He was sleeping and facing towards the bed where my husband was, and then I turned and looked at my husband, and he was jerking off, usually if he does that and he says the truth about it, I’m not gonna be mad. I might be a little disappointed, but not mad well, he lies about it. I figured out that he was completely uncovered so if my son woke up, he would be watching his dad jerk off, and my husband didn’t realize why I was so pissed and so I walked out of the room so me and him can talk about it. He then proceeds to use the Alexa to say my name and to come back into the bedroom instead of getting his ass up getting changed and then coming to talk to me he used our Alexa device to call for me to go back into the bedroom. He then refused to talk to me until I talk to him first. I was so pissed off and I did not wanna start an argument in front of our son who’s currently sleeping so I messaged him to come to a different room so we can talk. He didn’t so I messaged him about why he’s always lying to me about that stuff his reasoning was because he was embarrassed, which I get however when I told him I was mostly pissed at him doing it in the same room as my son who’s sleeping and being completely uncovered and just doing it in the room with him in general he got mad at me for it and started talking about how after our son was born about how we’d get in intimate while my son was sleeping in our bed. But he said I was the person that initiated it. I was terrified of any intimacy after having my son. I was traumatized anything going near me down there, but apparently I’m the one who initialized it. When I said that’s not true he started yelling through the phone saying yes it is.

This brings me to another incident maybe less than a week ago I came back from a good day at work, played with my son for a bit, gave him a bath after that I went to go take a shower and a bath and before that I said hey to my husband, I asked him if he could do me a favor and make sure that my son actually went to bed and if he cries, go answer and double check that he’s OK because he probably would’ve hit his head on the bars of his crib like he has done on accident, and if he did that I possibly would want to have intimacy well after my bath I was thinking about stuff in about our marriage and how I don’t want to be in this anymore. I don’t really love him anymore not since I was pregnant with our son and after he was never a true dad and never helped me out postpartum, I was thinking I don’t want to do this with him anymore. He was already in bed waiting for me because we haven’t been intimate in about a month and I let him know that hey I was thinking about things and I don’t want to be intimate, especially not in the same room with our son because he can wake up anytime, my husband proceeds to yell at me and wake up our son and instead of putting our son back to bed. He made me do it because he’s never done it before and refuses to even try. I told him I’m gonna be in the living room so that we can have a conversation and not yell in the same room as our son who’s currently sleeping so I walk out of the room and he proceeds to yell more at me. He wakes up our son again refuses to put him back to bed so I have to do it. This goes on for about two more times. By the way the yelling at me all four of those times was because I didn’t wanna have sex or be intimate, and he was trying to find ways to force me to be intimate like he has done so many times in the past.

This is how it’s been for almost 2 years with him and I said to his face a few days ago that I do not love him at all, and I don’t want to be with him. He faked his emotion of being shocked, and I could 100% tell whenever he fakes an emotion, what was worse was that him shocked or anything like that he had no emotion for it. He didn’t give him crap in the world but every time that I tell him I want divorce he takes my son and hold him hostage for me at his grandmother‘s house and if I call the police department either the sheriffs office or the regular PD they’ll tell me that he’s able to do that because he’s the father and that I can go days without seeing my kid but if I did that that would be kidnapping and I would never see my son again.

(Sorry if my wording sounds a little off and my grammar and punctuation is off, it’s because I was using voice to text.)

Swim Badges

Random one - what are people attaching kids swim badges to nowadays? I remember them being on our swimming costumes but seems like a bit of a faff when they're little and likely to outgrow stuff fast.