13 month old will only go to sleep with me

So my 13 month old girl will only sleep if I put her to sleep. It means I can't have an night life where I go out with friends for a couple of hours. My partner thinks it's okay that I dont have a night life because he chooses to not have one, and sleeps early. I've told him that he needs to put her down to sleep atleast a couple times a week so she gets used to him during the night routine. Is anyone else having this issue?

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I agree with you that he should keep trying. Even if you don't go out, at least you're free to do whatever else during that time.
Here we have the issue not because my partner doesn't want to try, but because she is very much in her "mama only" phase. He tried yesterday but she wouldn't settle when he used to put her to bed before with no issue. It's exhausting but he keeps trying and hopefully she'll grow out of that phase.
I hope your partner understands your point of view and tries more! If not maybe book a night out and he's just gonna have to deal with it! đŸ€·â€â™€ïž

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It's so hard when they dont settle and then the mum guilt sets in! But I think it's just a case of consistency and riding it out lol x

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