Feeling very frustrated

My daughter is 4 weeks old and she has been so much lately and it’s becoming very frustrating and draining. She has been crying so so much, I can’t even set her down to go to the bathroom. Last night she was up for two hours. And then up every other hour before that happened. I woke up this morning feeling so irritable because of this.

Is feeling this frustrated and irritated normal? I have had to put her down and just let her cry because this feeling is so unbearable. 😣

I feel guilty. My son was not this overwhelming. I have no help at night and barely any help during the day.

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Totally normal to feel this way! My daughter was like this. She had to be held all day and would only sleep on our chest. It was very hard. sleep deprivation plus all of the postpartum hormonal shifts is such a difficult period. Something that helped me was to remind myself that everything is a phase. She will eventually grow out of it, not sure when, but she will. Eventually she will let you put her down on the ground so you can go to the bathroom. I’m sorry and sending love because I know how hard it is !

My little girl was like this until I got her gas drops, I use little remedies(I think it is) and all of her hysterical crying stoped. Babies don’t cry for no reason; colic, thrush, gas, hot, cold, hungry, wanting comfort, etc. it’s something. Taking a break and walking away is amazing. Good job momma you are doing great!

My 1st baby was like this. He was better at 2 months. He was very gassy and nothing helped except switching formula. Walk away if you need too! Its going to be okay, its so rough. My son was sleeping through the night by 3 months

Is she hungry? A few nights ago my son was so fussy it was awful. I swear he ate enough because I was told at that point he should be eating 3oz so that’s what I gave him but he wanted more. Once I gave him more milk he was so calm

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