please help

Have you tried co-sleeping? Mine wouldn't for the first two weeks. I ended up co-sleeping in bed. Look up safe co-sleeping but essentially I c-shaped round her. Was it the best sleep, no, but it was sleep and that's all I needed. Eventually we transitioned to the bedside cot.

We had the same with our newborn. We found swaddling worked. Also, we had a Rockit pram rocker which we attached to her Moses basket and had it on low so that when we transitioned her down she was still getting a rocking motion! We tried anything just to get a few hours of sleep!

I was the same with my LB, like some have already said we tried swaddling in the end, which helped.

Swaddling is the only way I can get my baby down.

So I had to put my bassinet from my buggy inside my next to me. And my baby will only sleep on his tummy.

I don’t have any advice but I just want to say I’m in the same boat. My little boy was born via c section on Monday and has cluster fed since the minute he was born and will not go down for love nor money. I can’t try swaddling yet as it’s not fair to wake my husband every half hour to unswaddle when he feeds, and I’m still too sore to do it myself😬 Please do feel free to message me if you need somebody to cry to, or even to just message at stupid o’clock in the morning💙

Both my kids would only sleep on their tummy neither slept until that point xx

Are you using a next to me crib at all? Sometimes babies sleep a little better in close proximity. In the day you could consider using a sling or carrier. If you do manage to get baby down at any point in the day, prioritize sleeping at the same time for now - other chores can usually wait. Do you have someone else at home with you? Can they help you a little at the moment, meal prepping, making sure you have nutritious snacks and ensuing you have taken supplements so you feel better in your health.

I gave birth on 01/02/26 & it’s been like this for me ever since. To get sleep I have to give my bub to my mum or partner for 2 hours where I can go upstairs to sleep. He screams the whole time but I have to put headphones in & sleep.

Oh this is so hard! We were in exactly the same situation. Me and my husband took shifts holding him through the night just to get some sleep. Look into chest sleeping. The happy co-sleeper is great for this. You're not doing anything wrong! Babies just feel most safe with you

Can baby daddy help at all with shifts? Or anyone? Even in day so you have more resilience at night?
It's so brutal right now. You are really in the trenches. I'm sorry it's a struggle.

Babies are so scared all they know is your scent, or touch, your heartbeat, your warmth, your breathing. It tells them they are safe. Understanding why it's so tough right now.

Please ask someone in your life for help and ask for strong pain killers if you need them. You deserve to have pain management and support in this time.

Sending empathy mumma x

Mine you’ll only transfer to the next to me if she was fully asleep, 20-40 min of sleeping on me.
Then transfer feet/bum first.
Then you can keep hand and cheek agains them a few min and slowly pull back.

Otherwise people say transfer drowsy but awake, but it never worked for us.

But the first few weeks was killer! We you’ll turns staying up with her on our chest.

If your partner is home, or comes home early enough, let him look after her for 1 hour or so and go nap!