Postpartum affecting relationship

I am almost 6 months postpartum with our second daughter, and it’s been a roller coaster 🤣 I know it’s pretty normal to “hate” your partner at times during this, but I think I’m getting to the point of being done done… and might be interested in someone new (this is a guy I dated way back in high school, and I’m still unsure about it)
I’m very unsure what to do or how to go about this because I’m also terrified to be “alone” 😕

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Wow mama, 6 months postpartum is such a wild ride! Feeling distant from your partner sometimes is totally normal,your body and emotions are still adjusting. Before making any big decisions, give yourself a little space to breathe; that past connection might feel comforting, but it doesn’t always mean it’s the right move. And it’s okay to be scared of being alone ,just try to make choices from a place of clarity, not fear. Sending you hugs 🤗🤗🤍

I was between 19-21 months when my man and I had a really hard time and we were discussing splitting up, but then after we got past our pride and emotions, we realized the only person we're hurting is our daughter. I know that staying together for the kids is deemed as not ideal but I don't agree. We live for our babies and do our best because of them and the same goes for our relationships because we are providing an example for them. Your past relationships are in the past for a reason and if that guy was meant to be you'd be with him and not your man. I hope things work out for your family 🫶🏻🙏🏻

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