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What Nadia said is a good idea. I’m the night owl so I have my daughter until 12am-1 and anything after 3am is my partner since he wakes super early. Maybe try something like that so one of you always gets a good stretch of sleep in

He has to learn to comfort the baby. My husband would do 8pm to 1am when we were in the trenches. A solid block of 5 hours sleep makes all the difference. I understand the waking bit - but if you trust him to wake you if he needs you, do what I did and put in ear plugs and sleep in a different room to them. (I took the bed and he had the sofa). I just had to tell myself I can’t parent safely when I’m sleep deprived as I would start hallucinating!

My husband and I did shifts...i would feed her at like 845 and then go to bed...wake up at midnight and pump and go back to sleep...hed feed her and put her in her crib by 1am and then I would get up from 3am onwards. So I got about a 6 hour chunk of sleep (broken obviously) and then he would sleep until like 7am before going to work.

It was hard when her witching hour started because she only wanted me and he couldnt comfort her...so we adjusted a bit but taking shifts is important.

You also kind of need to let him and her figure out their relationship. He needs to learn how to comfort her and she needs to learn to take comfort in him. If you always take over neither will learn.