Families/ parents coming to help?

I have had a similar issue with my own parents but I’ve just stuck to my boundaries and said this is what we are doing rather than this is what we want - that way it’s not up for interpretation or negotiation . And I haven’t brought it up again. Albeit I said 2 weeks after my due date incase I went over (however I’m now most likely having a c section)
Hope this helps xx

You Fe so right in thinking this way
I made a big mistake with my first they all came two weeks after due date and honestly it was overwhelming
My sister kids were sick and they gave it to her she was only two weeks
… this time around my brother is coming for two night two weeks after due date
I told everyone else to come when baby is two months or they can wait until we visit ..
we are the same all or immigrate family live abroad…

We’re not having visitors until at least a month in. Stick to your boundaries x

My parents live in France, when my son was born they were here from the start we had a couple of nights is two then my partner left for work abroad and my parents stayed with me for that week at the house was fine to be honest I guess depends on how you get along with them

Both my partner and I have our families in other countries. My mum will come and help me when my partner needs to go back to work (he works abroad). All other members of the family will have to wait until we visit them in their countries. And when that will happen is down to the baby and how I feel after C section. People will have to wait until we give the go ahead. No one seems to mind.

With my first I lived literally two doors down from my parents so really easy for them to come around etc but we told them and my partners family that we wanted a week to ourselves and they respected that , my family came around when I said they could and his family came around after 10 days. They visited for 20/30 minutes max then didn’t come back around until we said which was honestly 2/3 weeks later
I think you just need to stand your ground and tell them not to come visit/stay until you are ready, that’s your bonding time and healing time you don’t need them getting in the way as such don’t feel bad about it!

We don’t really have anyone to help us in this way. My mum is disabled and my husband’s mum passed away a few years ago. However, my mum did get offended when I told her the other day she won’t be able to see us until I let her know we’re ready.
It’s just one of those things, always stick to your boundaries.

My mum (and rest of my side) lives about 2.5hrs away, I would like her there near to little ones birth (if possible) so she’s planning to come up once I go to the hospital but then she’ll stay for a couple days before going home. Then our plan is for her to come back to stay for another week a bit later on when my partner has to go back to work. My partner’s parents live down the road so it’s tricky because we will want them to meet little one as soon as possible but they will then keep their distance unless we need them. So I don’t want my mum to feel left out having to wait longer initially. We definitely intend to have majority of the first few weeks as just me and my partner though x

We didn’t have visitors other than our immediate relatives pop in for the first 2 weeks as I really wanted to cherish those moments the 3 of us and we were learning each day what to do / surviving on minimum sleep I didn’t want to host or socialise much. However, second time I’ll be more relaxed and take all the help I can get. Do what you want and don’t worry about other people’s opinions ☺️ one thing I hated was people coming over with perfume on as it stays on the baby for days and I wanted to smell the newborn smell not someone’s perfume. We always asked people to wash their hands & no kissing which I’ll do again

Tbh all I wanted was my mum after I had my first baby 😂 my in laws came after a few days and I was very happy to be cooked for, baby held whilst we napped/showered and just having an extra pairs of hands for chores. I think it depends how well you get on and how helpful they will be. Do what’s right for you!

My mum will come in April for 10 days to help me to set up all things for the baby. Then she’ll go back Italy, and my sister will come in May and she’ll stay with me for 2 months…so that once my husband will go back work from paternity leave, I won’t be alone.

Day 1. I don’t have any boundaries 💁🏻‍♀️ if anyone wanna bring food and love on me and my baby you’re very welcome to. Coz not everyone would want to. For those that do, are welcome. I’m blessed to have my MIL cook and clean for me for 2m PP, and my sisters and close friends alternate and come and see what I need, or just come keep me company and listen out for baby as I take a long ass 1hr shower. I didn’t get PPD any of my 3 births coz I had people around me from Day 1. But I did the same for my sisters when they gave birth, I was there nearly every other day.

So my family live a 4 hour drive from us. My mum is going to come a week before my due date because we also have a toddler who she will need to stay with when I’m in labour. In that final week I will also be exhausted and needing extra help with my toddler when my husband is at work. The rest of my family can come and see us within the week of baby arriving but possibly stay in a hotel apart from my dad who can stay with us/ my mum. We don’t have room to host my 2 brothers and I don’t want to feel overwhelmed with them staying as well as my parents.
My husband’s parents live in the same town as us and will pop in to the hospital for a short visit once I’m ready and we are fine with that. We are very close to all of them. Everyone is respectful of our rules same as we had with our first , ie no kissing.