Am I lazy? Am I a shitty wife?

I’m not one of those women let him know okay 😂. Woman you work long hours, overnight, and pregnant. Then get cleaned then wake up for him?? What does he do I’m sorry her works as well ? Yes I am one of those women. You are NOT a shitty wife. I hate to compare but my husband supported me in become a sahw at 20 weeks pregnant because I was stressing out way too much and lack of work support. I’ve been working since I was 15. He didn’t demand me to have things ready for him or anything he in fact started helping me out MORE until after having baby. I’m almost 6 months pp and I know around 3 I was able to find my grove and do all those things yours complains about. But I do not have to if I don’t want to. My husband is very moldeable because the loves me so if I need help or clean up. Come on let’s get going. Some would complain I used to but if the man is willing and doesn’t see it as nagging why not. Your life will change when having a baby, a conversation must be had before arrival.

Seems like you have a difficult shift . I can see how that can be hard to be there for your husband. You’re going to be tired pregnant anyway plus a crazy shift . Idk how you do it . I’ll find a new job

Girl, I’m only 16 weeks and I already feel this SO much. 😭 I have basically no energy to cook, and when I do cook, it’s VERY rare. I eat out A LOT because sometimes the thought of having to stand in the kitchen, figure out what to make, cook it, and then clean everything afterward is just exhausting. And that doesn’t make me lazy or a shitty wife.Please don’t let him make you feel bad about yourself. You are literally growing a whole human right now. Your body is doing something incredibly demanding 24/7, and pregnancy can take so much out of you. Your worth as a wife isn't measured by how often you cook, how clean your house is, or whether your husband has a home-cooked meal waiting for him every day. And honestly, I think the part that bothers me most is that you’re working until 12:30 AM, getting home after 1 AM, trying to shower and get yourself to sleep, AND you’re pregnant… and he’s complaining that you’re not cooking enough? 😭 You need rest too.

Marriage is supposed to be a partnership. If one person is struggling or exhausted, the other person should be thinking, “How can I help?” Not “why aren't you doing enough?” If you have the energy to cook, great. If you don't, order the food. If there are dishes in the sink, they can wait or he can wash them. You shouldn't have to earn rest by completely exhausting yourself first.You are not lazy. You are tired. There is a difference. ❤️ Give yourself some grace, mama. You're doing more than enough just by getting through your days while growing your baby. 🥹❤️