Bully or im just sensitive

Today finally we were going to the beach after being sick👩🏻‍🤝‍👩🏽👶🧒👧🏼. I gained some weight recently due to injury....and the only thing that fits me was a tennis romper that resembles a dress bathing suit. I asked my wife for help in the back. First thing she says is Dance and sing like this...a meme we are both familiar making fun of a girls skirt.

I was already sad I couldn't use my other pink bathing suit. So I was so emotional,embarrassed and humiliated. I just cried my way back to my room and told her she always bullies me. She explained it was not making fun of me.

This is not the first time she engaged with mentioning what I look like or resemble in a new outfit.

Once she I cried myself out. She told me "Well I already canceled the plans....anyways it was going to be expensive. It's not my fault you are feeling bad for yourself and you can't wear your other bathing suit"

So I felt like it's my fault because I can be the butt of the joke because I gained weight? She also said

" Well where is your sence of humor? You're always laughing and having fun"

But at my expense?

Once she said a grey dress made me look like a mummy🧟‍♀️....im front of everyone. Everyone in her family were laughing. And they laughed more when I began to cry. But somehow they forgot about it. 😭

Am I just sensitive...can I fix my way of reacting?
I really want to get out of my house and do stuff but she the one I expect the most always bullies me but claims is just playful banter. Why if I am always crying 😢 😭.

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You’re not over reacting for the mere reason because you told her you do not like it!!! We can over react for some things but when you tell your partner you don’t like it and they keep doing it is a red flag!

It’s sad your partner is making comments like that. Even after telling her how you feel and her seeing it brings you to tears. I think it’s even worse her making those comments in front of others. You definitely don’t deserve to be embarrassed like that especially by your own partner. I would try having another conversation with her about it all. If nothing changes then it kind of shows you how much she just doesn’t care and the lack of respect she has for you.

I think you may be a little sensitive when it’s just you two with a in joke about the meme , but when she made a joke in front of her family at your expense that’s just mean …

This is bullying and it's not ok. She knows this is something you are sensitive about and she should be reassuring you that she thinks you're beautiful. Instead she's mocking the way you look, gaslighting you and dismissing your reasonable response, and triangulating by bringing her family into it to support her behaviour. You are right to stand up to this and call it out. And especially when you have children who will learn from you both how to treat people. I would suggest looking up resources on how to manage this.

She shouldn't talk to you that way. And...you sound like the kind of couple where when she says something like that you could respond to her with another meme letting her know she's being a total b*tch right now. Or maybe you have a phrase to let her know her "playful banter" 🤮 has crossed the line.

lt sucks to gain weight unexpectedly but as you are on your healing journey I hope you are able to get out there and rock your tennis romper era. You can be beautiful, good, kind, special, and worthy at any weight (or in any bathing suit!). ❤️ Partner approval not required!! 😘

You look great ! I wouldn’t listen to her . You can do better if that’s how she’s treating you . Sorry you have to deal with that 💗

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