Daughter diagnosed with not what I thought
My 13 year old daughter has been been having neurodivergent symptoms for years from age 9 more so, I have been fighting for a diagnosis and a assesment for her to get her the suport. I took her when she was 10 to the doctors due to what I thought was depression to get her support and they mentioned a possible high functioning autism into it. So we have fighting for a assesment for that for years. I have sacrificed everything my job, my life completly to support her, the half term meltdowns, the agression, the shutdowns and protecting as well as suppporting my younger 2 children. Days where she would kick the door down while I sit behind it until she calmed down as the explosion of her would be so huge I neeeded to protect myself and her siblings. I found out yesterday after going through right to choose assesments that she doesnt actually have autism or adhd but depression and anxiety as the report says and feedback video call. Not being selfish or rude. I have given up everything and that is hard to process and feeling broken and dont know what to do with my life as my litterallly when your daughter has been been having neurodivergent symptoms for years, fighting for a diagnosis and i have sacrificed everything my job, my life to find out she doesnt actually have autism or adhd but depression and anxiety. i have given up everything and that is hard to process and feeling brokengrieving thewhen your daughter has been been having neurodivergent symptoms for years, fighting for a diagnosis and i have sacrificed everything my job, my life to find out she doesnt actually have autism or adhd but depression and anxiety. i have given up everything and that is hard to process and feeling broken past few years of sacrifices and memories ruined for her doing it on as it feels purpose. God it hurts. Anyone know of anything I can do with all this would really help?
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I’m slightly confused, surely having depression and anxiety is ‘better’ than autism or adhd in the sense that depression and anxiety can be treated and in a lot of cases overcome whereas autism/ adhd are for life? I was hugely depressed and had crippling anxiety in my early 20’s and now in my early 30’s I’m very happy and well adjusted.
And regardless I assume you gave everything up to help support your child which they will need regardless of a diagnosis x
Have u tried sitting your child down to know what causes the anxiety and depression? Is it school? Home or what? To begin to help her , u need to know what is causing these. So pls find out and write it down . But definitely depression and anxiety are bettee than autism or adhd. So please gather yourself up and just fight for better solutions . Cheers
Why do you think she's doing it on purpose just because the diagnosis is not the one you thought it would be?
She still needs support and treatment, but maybe in a slightly different way to what you expected. Why do you need to grieve that? She's still the same person
Was the diagnosis from a proper professional with experience in the presentation of autism/adhd in teenage girls?
It took me 30 YEARS to be diagnosed with ADHD, I was told it was just anxiety and depression all the time.
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