On days out with the kids like zoo, farm, beach - I easily spend 100 at the minimum. Is that really bad or normal?
I’m talking spending money not money for the booking.
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Learn more about our guidelines.If I don’t have 100 to take as spending then we can’t go because I’ll always come out short. we do museums, library and other free places but I’m talking about other places like the zoo etc where you pay to book then need spending money as it’s a proper day out
Please also state if you’re in the UK or US or somewhere else

Probably $30-$50 on lunch , $15 max for a souvenir at the zoo just bc so far he’s only got a sippy cup or cool lollipops never wanted real zoo merch yet . I’d say add another $50 for gas money bc we drive an hr in a half to 2 hours away for a zoo trip . Overall I’d say $150 would be our family day out spending money. I’m in the US

We might buy lunch but that’s it

Just leaving the house costs money now. Going into the city costs us £16 on the train, the zoo off peak is £85 for our family of 4, our softplay is £23 each time, swimming lessons are £20 per kid each time.
I don’t see change from £100 on a day out.

About £10-20. We went to Gulliver’s Valley for the day on Sunday, drove there, packed our own lunches and water. Only things we spent money on were 2 coffees and an ice cream in the afternoon. We are cheapskates so always pack our own lunch and days out aren’t that frequent because of the price of tickets, we do lots of free activities instead.

From the UK and definitely not £100. I take packed lunch in a cooler bag. If we go to the beach, then we will spend around £50 but can do it cheaper if needed on amusements, a couple of rides, chip shop, and an ice cream. If we go to the zoo or farm, we take a packed lunch, so spend very little

I actively try NOT to spend more than I need too. I’ll take a packed lunch, snacks etc and I limit gift shop purchases as tickets are expensive enough! Probably like £25 max.
We went to a wildlife park in half term tickets where about £22 for both of us. I spent £8 on chips & a coffee for me. Then we got an ice cream for £4 and then she spent £5 in the gift shop! So £17 after the tickets!

Minimum a $100

Ohhh the days when leaving the house was just $100 🙃 it costs us a small fortune to do anything we bring our own food most of the time because literally we all prefer home meals vrs take out food we don’t know how it’s prepared or made. I have no clue how much it costs for a typical family of 3-4.

As a family of five, one infant so don’t have to pay for him it’s normally $150 by the time we get food, no souvenirs included. It’s absolutely crazy how much stuff costs.

We’re in the us & just a family of 3
I think we max out at around 60$ lol most that 60$ is spent on food and maybe one souvenir

If that £100 doesn’t include the cost of the farm/zoo/etc, I’m genuinely wondering what you spending that much on?
We’re in Wales and would probably spend maybe £5-10 on coffees or a snack. Occasionally £20-25 if we’re buying lunch too but we usually pack our own

I live next to the beach so it’s £10 for an icecream or less. The zoo is also nearby and I spent £10 on food for my daughter which is annoying as should have done a picnic. Theme park on the beach might be ice cream and lunch somewhere maybe McDonald’s or somewhere else.

Most of the time nothing
I take snacks and water from the house
We live near the zoo we have membership
Or we go to the park and library
But once a month we do something different and then we would spent ticket maybe or lunch or something like that

We actually have a yearly zoo and museum pass so every time we go we just need to book no fee, just a booking for the scan code to get in. If you go there often then invest in a yearly pass, it’s worth it if you go 3+ a year coz its worth about 3 entries the pass. Bring food when you go, I always pack a bento box for my boy and try to eat first before we go. Some places I have to pay for parking as well just depends where we’re going. $50-$100 here depends where. I don’t have a big appetite so a chai latte and 2 sushi rolls get me by the whole day. Places that have a electric bbq we buy meat and cook on that esp if we have a lot of kids w us. We don’t buy any souvenirs coz it’s likely not the first time we’ve gone to that place unless we’re travelling (I’ve been to all the kiddy places in the city) Beach is probably cheapest for us we usually go halvies on a fish n chip pack w who we’re with

Where I live now I can do an outing for about $50 to $60 usd. Where I'm from, about $200 or more.

I say other bc we’re going to need at least $150 min

Try bringing a snackle box!
I always pack my girl a box of her favorite snacks and sweets! 🍭
She never begs unless it’s something she needs, like if it’s hot and she needs a Gatorade or something! Also, I budget plan for our outings. Give myself a set limit! I like to have fun when I go out so we typically only do paid outings once a season or so. And it really depends what we’re doing, I’d say I spend 300 or so on seasonal outings!
But the park is free! And the movies are cheap usually!!

It’s not even £50 for a family ticket at the zoo anymore, easily £200 once you fill up the car, pay for the ticket, lunch

Easy we drive, their ride are £2 each in the arcades i don't eat chip shop my partner and litte girl do that's £15 and ice cream £3 each. Playing on the beach is free, I take also take drinks and snacks
I’m looking for some perspective because I’m starting to feel that I’m mad and I’m not sure whether I’m being unreasonable.
My husband works 9-5 and Mon to Thu, has around 1h commuting each way. I completely understand that he is tired when he gets home and needs some time to decompress. I’m not expecting him to come through the door and immediately take over everything. However, I’m struggling with the fact that I don’t feel like my need for rest is being considered in the same way.
I’m currently EBF, so I understand that there are things he genuinely can’t do, particularly overnight. But during the day I’m with the baby constantly and then when he comes home, I’m still doing what I’ve been doing all day. He’ll often play with the baby while I have a shower or do something around the house, which I appreciate, but sometimes it feels like he sees this as “helping me” rather than simply being a parent. Then the night shift starts again for me because I am EBF and I haven’t rested all day. Also, he sleeps in the guest room, which is great, but if he’s slept all night uninterrupted he should feel rested.
The weekends are where I struggle most. He seems to feel that playing with the baby is his main contribution, while I end up using that time to clean, do laundry, tidy, cook, etc. It can feel as though he gets to spend his free time playing with our baby while I’m still responsible for making sure the house functions.
If he plays with the baby while I clean the house, he isn’t really “giving me a break” because I’m still working. I’m just doing a different type of work. Likewise, I don’t want to feel like I should be grateful that he is looking after his own baby while I get on with the chores.
I also don’t expect the house to be spotless or for everything to be perfectly divided 50/50. I know that with a baby, things are different and that his job and commute take a lot out of him. But I feel like there needs to be some recognition that I also need time when I am genuinely off duty.
At the moment, it feels like his working day finishes and eventually he gets some time to rest, whereas my “working day” doesn’t really finish. I’m with the baby all day, then I’m doing things around the house, then I’m breastfeeding through the night, and the next morning it starts again.
Before we had the baby, I didn’t feel like I’m looking for some perspective because I’m starting to feel quite resentful and I’m not sure whether I’m being unreasonable.
I’m beginning to feel like I’m on a 24h rota between the baby and the house, and honestly, I’m starting to feel more like a housekeeper and primary caregiver than an equal partner.
I don’t want to resent him, because I know he works hard and I know he loves our baby. I also don’t want to minimise the fact that his commute is exhausting. But I need him to understand that I am exhausted too, just in a different way.
How do other couples divide things when one parent is exclusively breastfeeding and the other is working full-time? What does a fair division actually look like?? Please help
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Planning for christmas, birthdays or buying ahead for your little one or maybe even yourself!
I managed to get hold of the fridge, country kitchen and basic foods - may go back for some more wooden foods and sweet treats to fill the kitchen!

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He obviously just doesn't give a f**k tbh especially as he never even got my medication and I currently feel embarrassed and vulnerable especially as my family saw the real him before I did or maybe I did but didn't want to see it.
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