How do you split task with partner when EBF?

This is definitely selfish and unreasonable. He also needs to do some of the mental load. So the online food shop, learning about weaning vaccinations appointments, family birthdays it can't all be on you. You need some time for yourself to recharge so maybe feed the baby and go out for 1 hour by yourself. He needs to do the cleaning and cooking. What we do is husband comes home late at 8pm I'll reheat the food. He batch cooks food in the evening. Then I'll go for a walk in the pram he will wash up or & cook for the next day. He will hoover and clean the bathroom. In the morning before work he takes the baby at 7am so I can get some more sleep and he does the bath, vitamin d and read the baby a book. I'll wake up around 9 then have a shower and coffee.

I've got a whiteboard in the living room with day and night time routines. To do list for the week, so hoover clean sell stuff on vinted, pay council tax or whatever we tick it off. In the morning we will handover. So say the baby hasn't had a bath or book my husband will let me know. So we're flexible if one of us is running late. Hope this helps.

I delegated basically everything that I'm not so particular about

1. Unloading dishwasher once the dishes are done (if not, dirty dishes pile up)
2. I put the laundry in and start it on the settings i want, but he's got to hang them on the line once they're done. Either of us will fold/ put away (I had to show him exactly how i wanted baby's clothes folded and put away or else it was difficult for me dressing baby)

3. On weekends Morning nappy was always his, and most nappies when he was around. I'd ask him a lot, to the point of sounding like a broken record😂 but it paid off at now 9 months postpartum he does most things without being asked

My husband is out 7-7 and comes home and jumps into whatever needs to be done. You don't get to decompress as a parent. He has an hours drive home to "decompress" he can listen to music. Have some peace etc
You signed that away with the positive test.
You are also working 24/7 just in a different role

We have 3 kids youngest is 1

As funny as some of the things you mentioned are, honestly, you’re really making a valid point about having to work round the clock. I genuinely feel your pain.
I think you should sit him down and explain all these frustrations to him. Like you said, he might genuinely think that playing with the baby is his way of supporting you, which is obviously not enough. He needs to understand that supporting you also means helping with other house chores and responsibilities, not just occasionally carrying the baby.
I really hope you both can have an honest conversation and find a solution to this issue. ❤️

I could have wrote this, I don’t think they fully understand😩 like why am I bathing our baby in the evening that could be his thing or his bonding time a long with playing etc, I think I choose my battles and just get on with it, as tough as it is sometimes, I’ll be back at work soon and the evenings will be BOTH of our time with her after not spending all day with her x

My partner works for himself, he sometimes works 12 hour days 7 days a week from the office at home. Anyway since my second son has been born 4 months ago, he’s done every night feed with me. He does this without me asking… we both wake up, gets up first and changes his nappy and then hands him to me. I then feed him (breastfed) and then hand him back to my partner who will wind him and rock him to sleep whilst I go back to sleep.

He would cook every night if I let him and does cook most nights actually. He also does all the washing and drying, I will then fold and put it all away. He hoovers, mops, feeds the animals and basically does any sort of housework you can imagine. All whilst running a successful business and I’ve genuinely never once heard him moan. He thinks that’s normal… he is the first man I’ve met who acts like this though. I think his mum whipped him into shape at an early age! We always joke that I’m the husband in our relationship 🫣😂