Dismissed then Lost Heartbeat at 9+4

Second pregnancy loss. Waiting for surgery on Wednesday.

I spent the morning at the EPU, waited ages and got dismissed with reflux (despite presenting with lower abdominal pain?) I burst into tears and was stopped by a nurse. I asked if it's okay to feel the need for a second opinion. Got added to the afternoon scan lists and was seen immediately. Again met with 'I'm sure nothing is wrong'. The sonographer's face changed immediately once the scan began. Looks like development stopped at 9+4. I'm only 9+5.

I'm devastated - surgery scheduled for Wednesday.

Any tips for my heart?

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I’m sorry. I’m going through a pregnancy loss now. TFMR scheduled next week so I’m pregnant until then… baby has Edwards Syndrome which is “incompatible with life”. I’m devastated. She’s really wanted but I don’t want her to have a life of suffering. Not that life is even an option. They said she’d likely die in childbirth even if I carried full term.

Talking about it and crying whenever you feel like it helps. Important not to bottle it in. I have a counsellor I see already plus well have bereavement counselling. Podcasts have helped understand how others have processed loss. Walks, music, sunshine all will help I hope as we enter the Spring. I really don’t know to be honest xxx

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