HELP

Hi mums,
I’m really struggling at the moment and could really use some advice or reassurance.
I have a 21-month-old toddler and a 12-day-old newborn. My toddler has always been a good sleeper and was in a solid routine, but the last two nights he’s been waking for hours screaming and crying. Before the baby arrived he might wake for a bottle and go straight back to sleep, but now he’s inconsolable and won’t settle at all.

Last night he screamed for hours and today he’s started crying as soon as I put him down for bed. It’s also affecting the newborn’s sleep, which is making things even harder.

Has anyone else been through this when introducing a new baby? Is this a normal regression?
What helped your toddler feel more secure or sleep better again?
Any tips, routines, or reassurance would be so appreciated right now.

Thank you in advance, feeling exhausted and a bit overwhelmed.

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So it’s normal ur toddler is getting used to sharing there day with another baby and that can trigger something in there brain try having 1 on 1 time with them leave baby with dad or family or even when baby’s sleeping and make that time all about u and ur toddler involve them in activities with baby like when I change nappies ask him/her to please pass u the nappy or the baby wipes or even chose outfits for baby make them feel included always reassure during the day with words like I love you you’re my first baby and this doesn’t change how much I love you or ur doing great ur such a good big brother/sister at night time try having another 1/1 sessions with ur toddler where you embrace them and read a story and re ashore them as much as u can like saying mummy’s here if u need me come find me or call my name and I’ll come hope this helps ❤️

Unfortunately it’s pretty normal. Mine completely stopped napping when we brought home baby.

My toddler felt more secure when I carved out special one on one time while baby was asleep and all screens were off (minus baby monitor).

I made sure to include toddler in baby’s routine too which helped some

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