Feeling a bit invisible lately

Just having a really hard day and wondering if anyone else relates.

My son Koa has been having gut issues and tonight we just had 3 hours of screaming from gas pain. He gets these episodes where it seems like he has trapped gas and we don’t know how to help him. Watching him in that much distress honestly breaks my heart and makes me feel so helpless.

But I think what’s also hitting me is the mental side of motherhood.

Since becoming a mum I feel like I’ve become a bit… invisible? Everyone focuses on Koa (which of course makes sense) or on my partner’s mental health, and I’m constantly the one organising appointments, researching things, making calls, and holding everything together.

Yet it feels like no one really stops to ask how I’m doing.

I love my son more than anything, but some days motherhood feels really lonely. Like once the baby arrives, the mum kind of gets put to the side.

Just wondering if anyone else has felt this way or gone through the same thing 🤍

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I’m struggling too mama! Hope your son gets his gut issues sorted soon ❤️
It seems only we have to deal with the mental load of pretty much everything. Like cooking/cleaning.. making sure everything is going well. I have 2 under the age of 2 and it is WILD

Motherhood is hormonal. My son’s also 3 months. It’s my first maternity leave so I’m getting used to doing what every stay at home mum does. I’m with you too, I have days I go on a mental moment too. After a month; I started going to mums and Bub yoga so gives me time to socialise with other mums.

So sorry you're having a hard day. Motherhood is incredibly lonely. It can sometimes feel never ending.

What have you done so far to help with your son's gas pain? My daughter was pretty gassy in the first 4 or 5 months or so and we did a lot of tummy massages, bicycle legs and sometimes would give her infacol drops to help. It definitely makes you feel a bit helpless sometimes. Things did get better for us, she's almost 9 months now.

Do you have any help from your partner or family/friends? I feel what's helped me is to advocate for myself, and being very open and honest about how I'm feeling. I ask for my partner or my parents to look after the baby if I need to go out and exercise, see friends, go to an appointment for myself etc. I'm lucky I have that option. Do you have the support you need?

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