Bedrooms..

I'd move your room to the middle size, SD to the smallest and 18 month to the biggest with a view to share once sibling is older. Could also have this as a playing room while SD is still young enough to want to play with toys. This would work for a good few years, maybe longer depending whether you have another girl or a boy next

We've had this debate in our house too as I have 2 SDs, twin boys age 3 and baby girl on the way. My view is that the children who live in the house 24/7 get prioritised in considering rooms. They're not more important than the SDs but the house and bedrooms is more important to the ones who live there as it's there only house and bedroom. It's important for SD to have her own bed, space, towel, pyjamas, toothbrush and have a sense of belonging.

Obviously initially baby will be with you but once they're a year ish old they're better in their own room. Small room could be a nursery while baby is small. Otherwise baby will disturb your little one every night which seems unnecessary when there is a room available.

How big is the big room? Can you put up a dividing wall? Or use shelving units to create separation? Then 2 kids could share the big one but have their own space. Youll find a solution that works for you. Same gender children can legally share a room up to age 16 the need to sleep in their own room.

Ran out of space in last message, as I've thought about this issue a lot! Basically, please be empowered to advocate for the needs of your kids who live there 24/7 and own the choices in your home. That can be balanced with making your SD feel welcome, at home, valued and important part of the family with their own space- whatever that looks like. You can have your own space without having your own room. Good luck! Xx

I love the ‘don’t ask’ 😂😂 I feel you, my partner was attempting arguing with me that my 7yo SK needed the middle sized room over our child. 🙄 the logic isn’t there.

However we’ve biggest (baby still in with us) SK box room (he literally never stays) then our 2 year old currently in middle sized (is a decent size though)

Luckily my two are same sex, so they’re going to be sharing the middle sized room.

If was a boy, SK and baby would have shared middle and my girl would have moved to the box.

Thank you for all your ideas girlies! The big room is huge and definitely could have a divide in the middle. That might be the best way to navigate it, and then depending if baby is a boy or girl, potentially switching who stays in which room.
😂 there is definitely no asking. I wont even entertain a conversation about SD needing a bigger room than our child that lives here full time, especially when SD still sleeps in her mums bed at home and refuses to sleep in her own bed at ours too most of the time 🫠