I’m not in love with my husband anymore…

I lost attraction and have no desire to have sex with him. The thought of sex just icks me but I still do it for him. I still love him because he’s a great dad and my best friend. He loves me, so telling him would deviate him. I felt this way years ago and then got the love and attraction back somehow. What do I do? Do I just keep trying and wait to see if I get it back again or is it just not right?

Like every relationship, we’ve had our ups and downs and a lot of things I’ve forgiven but still remember. Idk if I just don’t want him anymore or if it’s years of stuff built up and I just don’t feel the same for him? We are completely different people and never agree on anything. Like every fundamental thing is opposite so it takes sooooo much work to agree on anything. He’s alway trying to show affection towards me but he’s just always touching me and I hate it. Is it even worth saving if I feel this way? We can’t afford therapy, nor do we have the time and I don’t want to hurt him 😔

Is anyone else in the same boat?? How can I find the love again, the attraction?

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I think yall need to talk about it. Maybe go to therapy together or just you or something like that. But I think first steps is talking about it and figuring out the problems. Like you said relationships have their ups and downs. And then you work on it. This is the down. Maybe yall try to prioritize dates again and hanging out. Something like that that can help you

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There is one thing that I was told years ago and if I would have listened I would have saved myself of years of failing relationships with good men. “If you leave, you will trade one set of problems for another set of problems.” It’s true. I’m no better off than I was when I walked out of my marriage 29 yrs ago. At least you KNOW the problems you have now and can work on them together. There will always be something in someone that you will have to compromise. Take the love girl, you just might end up with someone that just says he loves you but does the opposite like I am now.

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Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

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Daycare?

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Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

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-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

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