Marriage fizzled out

I feel the same way, look into avoidant attachment styles. See if it matches him and learn your own attachment style. Unfortunately men have little emotional literacy and if you want to that could help for you not him.

How long have yall been married vs being together? Are there new or more than usual stressors on either of yalls plates? I think every couple should do couples therapy within their first 2 years of marriage. Theres a different level of communication and understanding thats needed in marriage. Its so important to know your attachment styles, love languages, and communication styles. It takes work especially when you have kiddos. And us as women want more nurturing once we are married and most men dont realize that, they think they should do the same or less because they've met "the goal" and its hard to tell them otherwise especially if thats how they were raised.

Men are wired to achieve, not to improve what they deem is already suitable and functioning. If you look into therapy I would say either a couples group therapy, or if youre able to find a good male therapist. We did both our therapist was a male who had similar military background to my husband so they were able to connect, but our therapist was a very goofy man who was able to make appropriate jokes to keep things light while we talked through very triggering issues. We also jokingly called him our translator because guy brain and girl brain are not the same. Watching my husband discover "fine" is not fine and me discover that his silence doesnt hold deeper meaning could have been a 12 season drama 😂