Am I wrong for getting upset?

Long story short. My cousin made a group chat for bridesmaids and groomsman to plan out bachelorette party.
I sent one text about finding a sitter and my cousin texts me to stop saying stuff like that cause no one gives a shit? As if no one else is gonna mention their personal lives during planning a trip of 10 people?
I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

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Really rude and unnecessary. Also… how dare you expose single men’s eyes to the usually invisible labor of child care considerations….! Ew. Yikes.

It seems clear also that you were checking with the group in case other people had ideas (maybe they have kids too and you could share a babysitter, or maybe they have a preteen who wants to babysit etc…), you weren’t just oversharing unnecessary personal info in a group text.

So in other words. My fears in the back of my mind were always true. It’s embarrassing for her that I am a single mom and made some mistakes. Ya I blocked her, it’s more complicated than that, I was in the wrong I can admit it. This was over 2 years ago, and now it’s being thrown at me. I guess unresolved family drama at the root

I’m being nice: unresolved family drama would be the best way to put it. There’s severallll reasons why she could’ve sent you that text about no-one giving a sh*t whether it’s about her or the other lads. Maybe a conversation needs to be had? Because missing someone’s wedding is a huge deal and doesn’t resolve anything.

BUT if I’m being brutally honest: I would say regardless of how she feels how she’s talking to you especially after you’ve apologised is disgusting especially as someone who is giving her time and money to be there for her wedding. I would opt out of both the party and the wedding and let her know why and it’s up to her to speak to you like a human being or continue to be immature and miss out of you being there, and I guess her decision will rely on how much she values you and that’s also fine!

Kisses ♥️

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No sitter but cant let myself go into postpartum depression

Brought my little girl to my lash appointment she was so well behaved thank god !!!! Any other mamas end up bringing their kid to their maintenance appointments ?

Cancelling Easter…

So my step son (11) lives with us full time we’ve started with an issue of him stealing little stuff from school, taking his brothers clothes from his mums here without anyone knowing ect but now
He’s also got the habit of taking chocolate and crisps out the kitchen to the point of he’s eating all my 1 year olds snacks like the 6month+ wafers and then he’s got no snacks. I’m buying loads of stuff to last us the month and he’s going through them within less then a week 🫠 (he never gets told no to snacks either unless it’s just before a meal then he gets told to wait until after hes ate)
He has now gone through all the chocolate we hid for Easter that was also his two little brothers and he’s gone through the stuff my mum brought round for them. So now iv got just over a week with hardly any money to try and get all the Easter stuff back. We’ve sat and spoke about it and why he feels like need to just take and we get a “i don’t know” or “it’s just snacks”

My thing is should I re buy him Easter stuff or leave it as a “you’ve already had you Easter early behind our backs” he’s not missing out completely because he has Easter at his mums but I feel like there’s nothing more we can do other then put locks on cabinets so he can’t get in them but that’s just stopping him from getting to the thing he wants not necessarily him learning 🤷🏻‍♀️
My partners just in that “can’t be arsed” “just replace it” where we have 1 child together and 2 step children and a baby on the way so just constantly going out and replacing stuff really isn’t happening ☹️ he’s agreeing with not giving him anything for Easter but I feel guilty about it but he has teqnically had his Easter + more…

We have also spoken to his mum about it and she just says she has locks on the doors and she did it as a kid and laughs about it which just feels like shes validating what he’s doing.

Sorry for the rant just wanted to see other people opinions and views as I feel so guilty to cancel Easter for him but at the same time we don’t have the money to re buy everything he’s gone through 🫠

Am I doing something wrong?

I went for brunch with a new mum friend, both our little boys are 7 months. My LO would not sit at and tbh he rarely does, he had just had a feed and nap, I also offered him a banana which he had half of and convinced him to play with multiple toys but he either wanted to bounce on my lap or for me to walk around with him and eventually got cranky/whingy. I wasn’t able to finish my food. The other LO was sitting calmly the whole time and chewing on his teether. I even offered my LO a teether. Am I doing something wrong, am I spoiling him by picking him up constantly if he’s not crying and just whinging 😅

Is yogurt enough breakfast for a 7month old?

I'm really struggling with weaning and feeling like I'm failing my child.

I've always just been a cereal for breakfast skip lunch kinda person.

If you have advice or easy ideas please drop them below.

I'm also struggling with PPD so I'm really struggling with motivation when it comes to cooking etc.

Feeling guilty for resting

This may sound silly but if I ever get a chance to ‘rest’ or have 5 mins to myself i have this guilty feeling that i should be doing something baby related? Am I the only one?

I have always been quite an organised person so when it comes to babies nap time I don’t usually have any tasks to do. For example, he’s having a nap right now and I’ve made myself a cup of tea and sat down on the sofa, and I feel like I shouldn’t be doing this. Am I being silly ?

MIL making me feel like I’m not doing enough

Just wanting to rant/ see if I’m feeling touchy!
Since my LO was born, we have suffered with extreme reflux which is now getting treated and has improved so much. I have massively struggled with PPD/PPA. I feel I’m constantly running on fight or flight (like the most of us probably). However, I’m getting comments from my MIL that makes me feel as if I’m not doing enough for my baby.
Due to his reflux and my personal issues, I haven’t wanted to take him to baby classes/ leave him with his grandparents.
She will make indirect comments to my LO ‘is mummy ever going to take you to a sensory class’
‘You want a sleepover don’t you’
‘Mummy and Daddy need a break from you’
These are just a few comments that I can remember/ stuck out to me.
I take him out pretty much everyday either to the shops on a walk or I’ll go to a coffee shop/ lunch with my friends and own mother. - I feel quite accomplished when I do this as it is quite hard for me to feel up to leaving the house. I do sensory etc with him at home and entertain his wake windows.

Just to add! She is very much involved in his life so I don’t think she feels left out as she will herself take him on a walk, look after him for an hour.
I now feel up to taking him to a class as he seems happy to lay on his back so I booked one for next week and happily said to her today that I have booked one! Which I am rather proud of myself for doing. I was given a comment ‘finally’.
Sorry for the long post! Please let me know if I’m being slightly dramatic!