Circumcision, please help

According to my doctor, chances of it getting infected from having foreskin v getting an infection from the surgery are about equal. It becomes a social game.. so I had my husband choose since he knows what it’s like to have a penis and date.

By the time he is old enough to start dating I would hope that 1) he's capable of washing himself and 2) they'll be old enough to make a decision themselves on the matter. Risk of infection when navigating potty training?!??!?! The foreskin doesn't even retract until about the age of 7 from what I remember as it's fused shut until then

It doesn't effect peeing/pottying. Its becoming a lot more common in the us. He can choose it later. As far as i know babies aren't given pain medication for it (😬😢). I just didnt have the heart to do it to my boys for insignificant risks. 4 of them with no problems (oldest is 10). Im sure there's still recordings of it being done also.

My brother needed a surgery at 6 and that was infinitely worse recovery for him than people I know who did it at birth. Plastibell circumcision is the typical route Drs up here go, with better results than perhaps the methods they had 20 years ago :/

More and more babies in the US are no being cut. There is a change in social norms. Please dont circumcise purely because youre worried what other kids around them will think.

The facts. 3% of the global population will have a physical issue like phimosis happen. Most of these cases can now be cured through tropical creams and stretching without surgery.

Circumcision isnt more clean. You just have to teach them to wash and youre good. It doesnt reduce UTIs. Funnily enough the countries with UTI problems in men are higher in countries that circumcise. The man's urethra is 7cm long so its actually quiet hard for them to get a UTI.
Lastly would you ever consider cutting your daughter clitorual hood off? Because its basically the same thing. Youre exposing a lot of nerves and it can cause nerve damage. Some women do have surgery on their clitorial hood because there is an issue but we would class it as FGM if it wasnt for medical reasons.

Thank you everyone for your very thoughtful responses! I feel much more confident about opting not to circumcise now

We chose to circumcise. My husband and I both decided we would be doing our son more of a disservice if we chose not to. Either way you decide it’s honestly not a huge deal and just whatever you think is right :)

If it helps you realise how unnecessary it is, the US is one of, if not the only country to routinely perform circumcisions without medical or religious need. And the whole rest of the world is doing just fine with their foreskins!

I assume you are based in the US? The majority of the western world does not circumcise and it is fascinating how brainwashed Americans are to do this to their babies for health and ‘hygiene’ reason, men in the rest of the world are absolutely not suffering from constant foreskin related issues

I’m the uk it isn’t actually common practice to do it. I wasn’t offered it when my son was born and I’ve never actually slept with anyone who was circumcised. I may be wrong but I think it is an American thing mostly

We chose to circumcise both of our boys. My husband’s grandfather recently had to get it done at the age of 80 due to an infection and I also know someone who had to get it done at 16 also from an infection.
To each their own, but we felt strongly about getting the procedure done.
Both of our boys healed very well, and they were given freezing before the procedure. They didn’t even flinch when it happened or show and sign they felt anything (we were in the room and they were laying on my husband’s lap when it was done). There was no crying at all. It was over literally in 5 minutes.
That’s just my experience, please do your own research!