I’m 4 months postpartum. My husband says he doesn’t want to have sex with me and that he doesn’t consider me attractive anymore as of recently. Anyone else in the same boat?
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I'm sorry that you feel that way I hope things get better and I hope that you don't get divorced because of his shame for you. I hope that you can talk to a professional about things and hopefully he can reconsider how he looks at you because you guys made vowels to be married for worse. Isn't that stand for something to keep love and keep fire burning for each other in no matter what changes mentally physically emotionally? Remind him of the marriage try to work on yourself because obviously you cannot change him, but he can adapt to you if he fully loves you and he's committed to you he will do anything to do. What's right for your marriage and what it stands for for your children and be a good role model he should not be ashamed of you. He should love you and cherish you and carry you with open arms. He should be very happy and blessed and lucky to have you as his wife as to give him beautiful children as he you worked so hard.

Did he say what is making him feel that way or what he thinks brought this on is it because of something that happened during birth or weight gain or is he just a piece of shit because that sounds crazy to me?

I’m sorry you’re going through that. My advice is to love yourself, you made a life and continue to nourish your baby. Pour into yourself, workout get your body right and when he does want to have sex don’t let him touch you.

Fuck that mfker he ain’t shit then the f he treats u that way run don’t walk you deserve the best in life as every woman does I’ve been through a lot of stuff kinda like that but it was and is emotional verbal and mental abuse as well as physical no woman deserves this you deserve to be happy and when a man makes u feel insecure u get yourself right and right and flaunt it to n hia face then stick your nose up at him and say no baby you disnt want me after I had our baby and so now I’m not giving y what u don’t want