SAHM - what surprises you most about being a sahm?
Is it what you expected? What are your challenges? I will go first. My biggest challenge is personal development. I was in the middle of deciding what or how i was gonna make money. Now having a baby…. being tired, brain fog, home cleaning, and just balance makes it really hard to explore and figure it out.
Also i now realize how much moms really go through. I was the childless friend! Now i see the behind the scenes emotions, need for love support and understanding, and trying to make it in life! I celebrate and support all pregnant women and parents … especially of small children!
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The ways I've grown as a person in showing up with more patience, understanding, and love despite challenges surprises me most. Freaking out the way my mom did will only give my son anxiety, so I've been able to learn about child development and early education to really show up in ways that better support his development/my healing.
Watching him hit his milestones and reading together, having him recall specific animal facts after many zoo trips, or having him help mix eggs in the morning and admiring his development make me feel far more capable and valuable as someone who is molding a future husband and partner who will be steady and loving. He is so sweet and kind, and learning how he works and getting to meet him there makes me feel good about how I've developed these skills so I can continue to be the best version of myself for me, my husband, and my kids.
Personal development for me has always revolved around learning so even through the stress of life I feel I'm supporting my family better here.
Took time and a LOT of unlearning the grind of working and bringing in money. Realizing that family that stays united through a whole lifetime is more valuable and precious than resources and extravagance was something I didn't actually understand until I stayed home with my son. It goes so fast, this time..rather we influence him positively and not trust the world to do it for us while we hustle.
Being lonely, i spent my entire adult life so far making sure the friends and family who were actively apart of my life would be a good influence on my children. After my mom passed 2 months postpartum, i have no one but my husband, brother and one friend. Also how insanely hard being a default parent was going to be. I never wanted to be a stay at home mom and my husband is and amazing father, but being the default parent is hard and so tiring mentally and physically
It is HARD! The days are long! Don’t be too hard on yourself 🫶
I run an online business from my phone/laptop in little pockets of time. Nice to have the extra income and also keeps me sane doing something for myself 🤣 feel free to message me if you want some info! X
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