Being too sensitive?

I wanted people’s opinions on this and wondering if anyone else is in a similar situation! My husband is being super sensitive over friends and families opinions on who our new born baby daughter looks like. I think it’s ridiculous we are even bickering over this and having heated conversations. A lot of people have said she looks like her dad but some are saying she looks like me and just because he can’t see it, he gets annoyed with them for thinking it. I had a friend that came round to meet her and she said “she’s 100% ALL you” (me), he found this rude and disrespectful. I don’t think it is at all! Everyone sees babies differently and everyone has an opinion. I for sure don’t get upset if someone says baby girl looks like her daddy. It takes 2 to make a baby and she is gorgeous so it doesn’t matter, I’m the one that grew and birthed her but I don’t take offence! We then had a deep conversation and he opened up to me and said because he didn’t have much growing up as a child, he just would have loved our baby to look like him and to carry his features, considering she’s his biggest achievement. He’s convinced all MY friends and family just want her to look so badly like me and not him. (He’s very good looking may I add). I just get anxious every time someone comes round now as I don’t know what they will say regarding who she looks like! This is something I cannot control. He should be proud she’s gorgeous, happy and healthy. What are your opinions on this?!

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Personally, would be a red flag for me.

It annoys me when our health visitor says he looks like me or dad, but that's because I feel it removes bébé's individuality

I think he is acting very immature tbh. It literally does not matter, isn't something anyone can control, again, does not matter, she is his daughter, not his "achievement". With respect, this early in her life he hasn't achieved much at all.

I am sure you love that man enough to start a family with him, but he needs to grow up.

I don’t think this is a red flag, as clearly this is something that is bothering him and he has communicated that clearly with you. Have you asked him who you think your daughter looks like? Like together you could go through her features and try and say who they most resemble?

What I found with our baby is that when he was placed on my chest all I could see was my husband, it was uncanny. Even now, the only feature of mine that I recognise is the colour of his hair. But apparently that’s an evolutionary thing - babies are meant to resemble their dads as newborns as then it is easier for the dads to know and bond with their children. Unfortunately (or not) it doesn’t necessarily stay this way, with baby’s features changing as they grow, and potentially looking more like mum as they get older. This is really normal - your kid’s looks won’t settle for some time now.

Maybe another thing to communicate is how it makes you feel when he reacts. Does he know that you’re dreading visitors?

I’m sorry but he needs to get over himself, I know that’s not a productive thing to say 😂
Try not to pander to him, kids change as they grow up. My daughter looks the spit of me but has her dad’s mannerisms. My son looks just like my husband but also like my daughter, genetics are weird but it’s not something to make you feel guilty for.

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