Moving , Good or Bad Idea?

I moved 4hrs away from my family to my husbands hometown. Distance has not stopped my family from visiting. Take the leap of faith! Congratulations to you both!

wouldn’t say it’s a “bad idea” if your friends and family are committed to traveling back and forth to spend time with yall and be the support system you all will need, because the last thing you’ll want is the stress of packing up and traveling back and forth with your baby to your hometown in order to receive it, especially in the beginning stages of postpartum/motherhood when you will need it the most.

i’d say stay in your hometown, have the baby first, then reassess — because you never really know until you’re actually in the situation and obviously the safest bet is to stay in your hometown. my friend and her husband were in the same exact scenario and they just recently moved back home to be with family because they were struggling on their own. granted they were farther away from their support system than yall would be from yours but still. you’d rather be safe than sorry especially since having a baby, and moving to a new town, are both huge commitments

We live 5 hrs away from both our families. We had our first baby in 2023 and unfortunately for him only my family comes to visit. My family came when I gave birth the first time and stayed 1 week after birth and then came when I gave birth the second time and stayed about a month and again left 1 week after I gave birth.

It was HARD, especially because he was NOT helpful at all. I had to learn how to be independent and so here I am, with an 8 month old and an almost 3 year old. Do I lose my mind, sure but I’m just proving to myself that I CAN do it alone, I shouldn’t have to, but I can.

You need to make sure he helps you, & if he doesn’t, you learn to just figure it out.

But to be completely honest, I love my space and my distance from both families. Now that I have 2 kids I go stay with my family alone with the kids for weeks at a time.

I’m also lowkey resentful of “villages” particularly in his family because I WANT more kids but I don’t have a village 🥲🥲🥲

Hard to say. It will be challenging for sure without a village but so many women do this but move across the country or the world even. So I believe in you! It’s very important that your husband understands just how involved he needs to be if you commit to leaving your support group. And he needs to be ready to give just as much energy as you are to raise your child without that extra support system in place or it will be much harder than it has to be.
Will you be a SAHM? Or do you plan on having a job? If you do go through with moving and plan on working at all you need to find a daycare now before baby is born.
The good ones often will have a waiting list. It took 2 years to get my step daughter into a good learning center that keeps up on cleaning standards much better than the others that we tried. (She was getting sick and sent home every week).
As a SAHM you will still be exhausted and struggling to find recovery time. This is where your husband needs to step up and let you.