Those without a village..

Do you ever wonder what it’s like to be so loved and cared for by lots of people?
I have 0 support in my life, I have 3 kids, 1 being tested for autism, I’m going through a rough breakup which will ultimately end up being a divorce and not 1 person has asked how I am. My mum, my brothers they know what I’m going through but no one offers any support emotionally or even asks if I’m doing ok.
I see people doing pregnancy announcements and it makes me emotional to see how happy people are for women and how supportive and loving they are.
I just really wish I had that some days. The few friends I have leave me on read for days and don’t seem to be bothered to make an effort. Just makes me so down

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I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with this! It’s so hard when there’s little support in any challenging period but pregnancy is a crucial stage where support is absolutely necessary.
Have you made any friends in this app?
Sometimes dynamics of family and friendships show in these moments.

But to offer a different perspective they may also be going through something that they’re not sharing atm, social media always shows the picture perfect.

However doesn’t take away from the loneliness you feel, just try and remain positive during this time, dote on your children and vent on here if you want.
Message me if you want x

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Honestly, I know exactly how you feel. I haven’t had a village either.

I went through my entire first marriage alone which was very unhealthy/toxic and abusive. I also, went through my divorce alone, being a single mother alone (aside from support from the man who became my now husband) and even went through a new marriage alone. Like no happiness from friends and family, no support. No nothing. And I have two kiddos that are Autistic. It’s rough and it sucks and long for it that’s part of why I’m trying to build my own village.

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I often wonder what it’s like to be loved by many. My parents are deceased, have basically no family either. I doubt I cross many peoples minds in a day. Im on this app hoping to find connection, even if it’s from afar since I know how crucial is it for a mother. Sending hugs. Message me if you would like anytime!

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I’m audhd and so are my kids and I’m a single parent with no family besides my kids… and I have always wondered what i would be capable of if i actually had at least one person in my life who loved me or supported me (emotionally)… but hey at least I got hyper independence lol 🤷🏻

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This is the one aspect of motherhood Peanut has actually helped me with because I felt so alone after having my baby. I was pretty alone prior to her, but having a her really exacerbated it. But seeing that it’s actually quite normal and common on here helped me feel less alone if that makes sense.

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.


I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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Hi everyone! I honestly have 0 social queues when it comes to talking to anyone in general. I definitely have a hard time talking to other women and making new friends. I can 100% relate. I just don’t like the idea of texting or meeting up but when I do I’m like “oh this isn’t bad.” Any advice? I also have a hard time getting comfortable and just feeling judged by other women😅 I’m also 19 so maybe making a change in this now will help in the future making mom friends/friends in general. Thanks in advance!

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Looking for more same age friends!!

Hi! I’m 23 and a stay at home (soon to be) mom. I have been having a tough time finding friends/women in similar circumstances to mine and would love to make some if possible! If you feel the same, let me know

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I live in New Zealand and I’m really keen on finding a regular best friend to chat with. It’s incredibly lonely. I love Australia and I think it would be fantastic to have friends there. If you’re comfortable with long-distance friendships we could meet up in New Zealand. I also want someone to video call because I currently have no friends every single day. I feel really lonely because I don’t have a nice family. I just want friends to become family one day and of course I need to trust them first which is why I’m making this post. I just got married 🥹👰❤️

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My relationship is failing I feel so alone.. I need a girlfriend to talk to :(

I'm a sahm and I feel so stuck... anyone going through the same thing? I could really use someone to relate to and talk through this with. Feeling so vulnerable but if I don't I won't be able to pull myself out of this

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