Do you ever worry that social media is skewing your perception?

My social media algorithm is full of Mum stuff (loads of it total BS and worth ignoring) and motivational posts about debt, burnout and body perception... And obviously cat videos. I sometimes wonder what other people are seeing and whether all of our opinions and perceptions are being skewed and shaped in a bad way based on what we see in our day to day social media feeds!

My younger sister in particular I struggle to understand her perception and her take on life and I wonder if a large part of that comes from her being influenced massively by social media! She refuses to take my (really very good) advice and then finds herself in a crap position and it's so frustrating!!!! Like why are you taking the advice of influencers rather than advice from someone who actually knows you through and through! It drives mental to the point I wish social media would F off and die

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The algorithm, especially nowadays, is mainly based off of what your media platforms see you looking at, liking, commenting and or sharing amongst friends, family or reposting and stuff like that. So unfortunately, if she feeds into it and continues looking down at a certain rabbit hole then yes her perception can be skewed a wee bit. However, if you're able to bypass all of that mentally and only focus on certain things, then your algorithm will portray that but I don't think anybody in a sane mind will say that the media is great. Even scientists are starting to say that as technology advances, it dummifies humans and takes away the biological order that we were programmed for in regards to socialization, learning and how we're able to use our intellect. Unfortunately with some bad influences that are in control of the media platforms, then the negative influence outweighs the positive influence that could be how technology should be but unfortunately that's not how it's being used.

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Omg yes and the fact that generations are starting to have lower IQs than the ones before... This is so scary and makes me want to bring my baby up in a bubble but that will be equally as damaging!

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