I am in a controlling relationship

My boyfriend said he would kill me if I ever left him or cheated on him.
He is very controlling, I am not allowed to do certain things, speak to most people, go anywhere alone, he tracks my location. There are too many things that he does, I can't even list them all.
I want to leave the relationship. Unfortunately for me, I rely on him financially so the only way I can actually leave is by getting a job but I cannot work somewhere there are men, and I have 3 children that I would need childcare for.
It is extremely difficult for me at the moment and I have no other support.
He told me yesterday that if I leave him or cheat on him that he would kill me, or worse. I asked what the or worse would be and he said 'you'll see'
I am scared to leave. What should I do?

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Erm yes everything you have said is extremely controlling and not normal..
you would definitely be entitled to 85% childcare funding and universal credit every month.. with 3 kids this would be quite a lot
Also if you move out you would get help with your rent which is a fair amount aswell.. sounds like you would be a lot better off and happy tbh! Get yourself a part time job on the side aswell.
Also if he’s making threats that are scaring you, you ring the police x

This is my flat. I've just gone through 2 years of homelessness to finally get a place that is home. He isn't on the tenancy, so he would be the one to leave. I get maximum benefits as it is but would be better off by working since the benefit cap would be lifted. The issue with the childcare is that you have to pay it first then claim it back, I haven't got the funds to be able to do that.
Me getting a job would mean relying on him for at least a month and I dont trust him to look after the children alone, they're not even his kids.
I am trying to avoid drama, but it doesnt seem like thats gonna happen

Thank you for your response x

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