How to put a newborn for adoption

My life was rearranged by a parent who intentionally broke up a prior long term relationship (out of racism) and she insisted that I look for someone else, trying to destroy my life while exerting a sense of control over me and my decisions. She was orthodox and didn’t respect me or my partner.

Our relationship was irreparably broken and trust damaged after that. I have since kicked her to the curb and found a partner on my own after my last marriage ended in divorce.

I have since found a different partner. I like him but as bad as it sounds, I worry that he is mentally ill. He doesn’t want to discuss mental health with me. But he’s not well and he drives me insane. I have my reasons for wanting to exit the relationship and place the unborn baby for adoption.

He might be a nice guy, but he’s not taking his medication or on the wrong medication. He keeps me away from mental health decisions. I don’t think I should leave the baby in his care.

I left my job and I don’t know how much longer I can continue to live with this man without going crazy. I do care for him and I do not want to run away but I must also think for myself regarding what’s right for me in this situation.

I am not sure I wanted to have a child in the first place.

I worry I may not be able to go back to work again because childcare and responsibility will be thrust upon me. I don’t want to leave and singly parent the child either. It would be a severe drain on my finances. Hence, I’m considering giving up the baby for adoption in order to make sure my baby goes to a much more deserving home than I’m able to provide at the moment. It’s a decision that I do not take lightly and I’m also struggling with it.

I was doing well & living my life before my mother interfered in my life. I was happy without children but this pregnancy occurred rather unexpectedly and I’m in the third trimester now. It’s too late to get an abortion in any case.

Fortunately, both the baby & I are healthy.
I will be delivering in the next couple of months. I live in the United States, and I want information on how to place a child for adoption as the mother. I know there are state laws that allow anyone to do this 3-30 days after the birth of a child in a hospital.

Please don’t judge me ladies, you don’t know my situation and I’m not normally the kind of person to walk away from a child (or pets) but I need to do this to maintain my sanity, reestablish financial independence instead of living my life for others, and depending on others. Please keep the hate to yourself. Helpful comments and information are welcome 🙏

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Absolutely no judgement here. You are doing your best to ensure both you and baby receive a better life.
It will depend on your state and how involved you want to be in the adoption process.
Each state has their own Safe haven laws. Where you can hand over baby with no questions asked. Like fire stations/hospitals etc. it differs depending on states but you’ll have to do this within a certain period of time.
You could also reach out to an adoption agency, they work directly with families who are looking to adopt infants.

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