Struggling in the 4 month regression
How are people getting out of the 4 month regression? I’ve been looking it up and it says I need to be trying to put him down drowsy but awake but this does not work for my LO. Every time we do this he ends up being wide awake and after almost an hour of trying we have to contact nap/rock to sleep. I want to avoid rocking to sleep because now when he wakes up in the night he needs to be rocked back to sleep which he never used to need.
Nights are constantly broken because we are up 2-3 times to rock him back to sleep. Please give me your tips on how to survive this and how to get out of this!! Constantly feel like I’m failing and doing something wrong
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Following! Having 6+ wakes every night for the last 6 weeks 😩 used to only have 1 wake sometimes none
Also following as going through the same!
Youre going to hate me, but your baby is acting like a normal baby.
Sure, they learn different ways of falling to sleep like rocking and enjoy that, but they also change these needs on their own terms.
Theyre meant to wake in the night.
My first born fed to sleep for 14 months, then one day decided he didnt want to, just needed a cuddle. Now, he wants to play with my hair to fall asleep. None of these changes were implemented by me, just things he needed and didnt need anymore.
This baby likes to feed to sleep pr sway to sleep, so for now thats what we do.
My first son woke 5-10 times a night from 4 months old to 14 months old. It was shit, but no amount of anything could change his temperament, he was just a needier kid.
My second born doesnt nap well, but has always sustained longer stretches at night, waking 2-3 times.
All totally normal x
We worked so hard on not rocking to sleep, finally mastered it for him to wake more than ever!! 😭😭
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