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My Mother In Law Said What?!

Unhinge delulu

I thought this app would appreciate this story, so buckle up.

I generally don’t have a problem with MiL, sure she can be a bit delulu but in those moments I just nod, smile and pretend to agree.

I recently gave notice from my full time non-remote job. Husband often works crazy hours and has frequent work trips. Kids are 1 and 4. Maybe if I had a passion for my job, would have been a different story, but I decided to reset, maybe get through the summer (also how the fuck are parents supposed to work through summer with no school??) and revisit going back to work in September.

My MiL is a workaholic. It’s her passion, her drive. She often says “I raised my kids and made this awesome career” She had 2 nannies, a driver to get kids to all extracurriculars, all summer kids were at grandparents.

So when she found out I’m leaving my job, she told her son it’s a bad idea because “he will lose interest in me”. She has not spoken about this to me at all. When I asked my husband, what does she mean? does she think I will become dumb from not-working? He didn’t elaborate just said he didn’t agree with her, and supports my decision. I didn’t press further.

Fast forward to this week. She is staying over, and my best friend was visiting at the same time. I was not in the room and she starts talking about me with my best friend, telling her “don’t tell X” 🤣 giiiirl how unhinged are you, of course she is going to tell me straight away.

She basically repeated “this is such a bad decision” part adding “my son is exactly like me. I know exactly what he thinks. He always comes to me first for my opinion. He is always going to be comparing X with me, if she leaves her job. He needs someone like me (ew ew ew) I grew in my career and his dad didn’t. So I lost interest in his dad like my son will lose interest in X” implying that my husband is likely to CHEAT on me if I don’t have a career. Whaaaaaaat.

Little does she know that a year ago he was about to cut contact with her because he didn’t like how she treated me and only mended the bridge because I insisted 🤣

And telling this to my best friend??

I mean, I’m actually not surprised she thinks like that. But whyyyyy do MiLs have such unhealthy cringe boundaries with their sons 🤮