Am I wrong? Long read

I love my mil. We get along great. However my step daughter is in college. She comes home some weekends to work and stays at my mils house because it’s close to her job, and mil lets her drive her car wherever she pleases. She never informs us, she just calls my mil to go get her. The problem is Sunday nights she needs to go back to school and after work and getting everything ready she’s not ready to leave until 10pm or later and her school is 40 minutes away. My mother in law always tells my husband he has to bring her home. Although it 100% ALWAYS ruins plans it’s never a problem because that’s his child and that’s what he’s supposed to do. However yesterday I started a post partum medicine that I need to take for 14 days. Post partum rage and anxiety is eating me alive right now . I’ve never felt so low in my life. I have to take this medicine in the evening and it’s basically a sedative. Last night I fell asleep and didn’t hear anything until 8 this morning… including my 3 month old. I talk to my mil today and she says “I guess I need to take so and so back to school because by the time husband can do it you’ll need to take ur medicine.” Honestly.. I took offense to this. The way she said it was like double checking that I need to take it at the time I need to and lowkey seemed annoyed my husband will be here with me instead of doing it. For one. The girl is 19. Take a damn uber. For two. I’m not planning my mental health around rides for my step daughter. Sorry. For three. She knows the literally hell I have been going through mentally. For four. My husband needs to work. The later I take this medicine the longer I’m messed up for the next day which means the later he goes into work because I physically and mentally can not take care of a 3 month old on it. I can already see what’s going to happen next weekend and I’m fuming thinking about it. You would think she’d want to step up for just the next two weeks while I need my husband to stay put at home in the evenings. I know it’s a pain but this medicine is literally and hopefully going to save my life.

in our community

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

Dummy

My baby has had a dummy since about 2 weeks old (now 5 months) and over the course of the last month we weaned her off it during the day only for naps and night (which was fine) and then 5 days took it completely away during the day.

The first day no dummy was fine, the second bit rougher. But now it feels impossible she just moans and cries all the time it takes ages for her to go down to sleep (she’s always been an amazing sleeper)

I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

Currently typing this as she screams uncontrollably in the car and I cry with her cos I can’t do anything.