Terrified of giving birth

I'm 34 weeks, had a c section with my first so the decision was taken out of my control really (failed induction after her growth slowed down).
I'm really close to my due date but I'm terrified of a VBAC/vaginal delivery. I just don't trust my body and I know I'm going to need instrumental delivery or episiotomy or baby will get stuck. I hate the unknown.
I've also had trouble bonding with this baby and I'm worried if I get complications or have a horrible birth then I will have awful feelings about it all and about the baby.
Does anyone have any advice.
I really really don't want another c section either as my recovery was awful last time.

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