Was she wrong for ignoring us?
We celebrated Eid as well as my baby’s first birthday on Friday at my in laws house. When we were there, some family friends of my husband also came. He calls them his uncle and he came with her daughter who is 27. We have met a handful of times, and they came to our wedding as well. My husband and I have 2 kids. When his uncle and daughter came, she greeted everyone accept myself and the kids. She ignored us the entire time and when she left she didn’t say bye to us either. She was also off with my husband as well. When I asked my husband he thinks she’s behaving like this because he used to visit them almost every day and since we got married and had kids he hasn’t. Our kids are 3 and 1, and the last 2 years has been so intense. Difficult pregnancy and postpartum plus a baby with colic. Is she wrong for being rude to us like this or is it my husband’s fault ? Also why is it always the woman that gets blamed, I almost feel like she’s blaming me for him not coming to visit…
Money in Marriage
Hi, has anyone got an advice? My husband and me are not best with money. Basically, all my husbands wage at the moment goes to bills, rent, his petrol and some loans we took out. He has some little leftover for groceries, subscriptions and stuff. All my wage is for the whole months groceries and any other spendings like new furniture, trips, clothes, etc.
I also started a new business so I get money from there (from clients) but it's not too predictable, for now it's going to groceries only.
Usually it goes that we live off my wage for half a month or a little more, I feel comfort and freedom and then my husband kind of reassures me that we can spend more because he will also have some money left and in the end I often find myself at the checkout with an empty bank account calling him to send me money or put money on the spending card and it's embarrassing and frustratibg. It happens because either A) he doesn't think about me needing money throughout the day even though the shopping is all on me. And B) sometimes things come up for example he didn't realise he didn't pay a subscription yet, or this past week his business sent invoices too late so he lacked cashflow in his business account and couldn't pay himself, so we are broke these days even though he has around £2000 profit right now that he is owed.
Sometimes I really want something and he pays for it and then later on I find out that because of that he didn't pay some bill and then when we actually need something and I thought has, he tells me about the outstanding bill.
We tried budgeting together many times and it's all so straightforward on paper but in day to day life it's confusing
Are we all living the same life?
Out of curiosity, have anyone ever left their partner for not helping around the house much ?My partner works overnights and I work the day shift. We have different days off. We have two kids together. Baby and toddler. On my days off I manage to get the house clean and clean the bathroom. It’s hard for me to clean the bedroom since he is sleeping there during the day on my days off. But he doesn’t clean the bedroom on his days off. He BARELY clean the house. And when I say clean I mean like wipe stuff down, tables, walls, kitchen cabinets, clean bathrooms. He version of cleaning is just sweep and mop and sometime washing dishes (which he never puts the dishes away). And sometime if he’s not too tired he would pick up the kids toys at night. He does wash clothes all the time but he HARLY FOLD THEM AND OUT THEM AWAY. So the clothes gets wrinkle and then I become pissed because now I have to get kids ready for school, pack their lunch, some time bathe them every morning and having to iron their clothes. He claims he too tired all the damn time. I don’t how long I can keep the relationship going. I don’t want to be intimate with him because I’m so tired. I do so much. And he does so little. I know working overnight is HARD! I did it myself with no kids. But I feel like I’m doing more….. his thing is he’s with the kids more because he has to pick them up from daycare at 6PM every day. But he puts them to bed at 7:30PM/8PM most days……anyways I’m becoming fed up and starting to resent my relationship…. I’ve tried talking to him but it turns into this fight ALL THE TIME. I’m not sure what I’m looking for out this post. I’m just venting and pretty annoyed this morning. Maybe my period is coming and everything is bothering me 😫
