Is nursery a bit out of line?

This is crazy!!! Is that even legal? Surely they would need your consent. And from what you say it’s clearly that he’s just more shy at nursery which is COMPLETELY normal

Find that very strange that they hadn’t gave any prior notice, have you checked your emails or spam?

Speech and Language therapist are amazing people, they wouldn’t have given the child any anxiety. Nor would the child even noticed they were being assessed, they most likely put the referral through and assumed they’d contact yourself. The therapist during the visit would’ve just observed from a distance and seen how the nursery worker interacts with your child as sometimes the worker themselves can be the issue, they would’ve given the worker any tips or advice if that was the case. Has your child been at that nursery long?

My advice would be to ask who the speech and language therapist was specially and ring them up and mention that no one had notified you of the visit and you want to know the outcome, you can also arrange for them to visit you at your home or their place of work also if it gives you peace of mind that your child is not behind.

I’d be furious if any therapies / outside people came in for an assessment on my child without myself being informed / a meeting being had re concerns of his speach especially if he does speak at home if they would have met with you they’d have known that. I’d honestly be livid as parents we have the final say on referrals
And you should have consented.

Yeah that doesn’t sound right at all. If they had any concerns they should have spoken to you about it. It’s your responsibility to decide if he needs any extra help or investigations!
My little girl is the same, she never stops talking at home, but at nursery she would go silent. We’ve recently moved her to a smaller childminder setting with only a handful of children, and she’s really come out of her shell.
If I’d found out nursery had been organising visits with therapists I would have been livid!

Speech therapist here. Your child absolutely should not have been seen by a professional without explicit consent from you. It’s worth looking back at your enrolment documents to see if you consented back then. But regardless, you should have been informed and given the opportunity to consent, or not.

Regardless of the consent issue, nursery should be liaising with you and making a plan of how to support him TOGETHER.

Get the contact details of the therapist from nursery and call them tomorrow. They’ll be more than happy to chat through all of their findings and what the nursery staff have said. Again, as part of their assessment they should have your input about what your child is like at home, especially if he presents differently at home and nursery.

Hopefully the therapist will offer you some reassurance, certainly they should make you feel heard.

I’d also be requesting a meeting with nursery. Including you, key worker and SENCo to create a plan of how to support him.

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Surely they’d need your permission for this!