Bored

I’m on maternity leave and I feel… conflicted. I love being with my baby and I’m definitely busy, but mentally I feel under-stimulated and honestly kind of bored at times. Then I feel guilty for even thinking that.

I’m having a hard time shutting my brain off and just “being,” especially coming from a fast-paced work life.

Has anyone else felt like this? What helped you stay mentally engaged or feel more like yourself again during this stage?

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We feel guilty for so many different reasons and a lot of them don’t seem fair to me. It’s a lot for us to adjust to as a new mom. I haven’t particularly felt bored during this phase in my life but am trying to find a new “normal” and I understand it will take some time. When does your mat leave end? Maybe start planning your return and come up with a routine in the meantime — maybe that’ll help with the feeling like you’re not doing enough or just “being”.

Go on a long walk you’ll be tired afterwards every time, try doing something you never had time to do before, hang out with other mom friends at the park just to get some sun etc. just gotta find something to keep you occupied

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