Just venting about an ignorant irresponsible husband!

I don’t know if it’s just me or if all husbands are like this, because my husband claims that all men are like him!

He doesn’t want to help with house chores, doesn’t do what’s asked of him, and only helps with the baby on his own terms and free time. Yet, whenever I get upset about something he does, he blames me for not asking for help. Honestly, I don’t even know if I want to ask for help anymore — it feels like such a mental load just to ask!

Usually, he’ll say things like, “Oh, I was about to iron my clothes,” or “I was about to eat,” or “I was about to sleep, I have an early day tomorrow.” You see where this goes…

Even when he does agree to help, he does things in a way that makes me want to just say, “Never mind, I’ll do it myself.” For example, if I ask him to sauté some veggies, he says, “Oh, we should try raw veggies sometime.” Or if I ask him to pass a fork, he says, “You should eat with your hands.”

At this point, I don’t even know if things will ever improve. Part of me feels like I might end up leaving, but I don’t want to take any extreme step right now because it would impact my baby.

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Is my child delayed ?

Recently had parent evening for my child (4 in June) and the teacher said she is not where she should be she does not know her shapes, letters or numbers.

My child is able to show me where shapes are on a poster for example if I said find the rhombus she would find it however if I i said name it she couldn’t,

On a number line if I said “find number 4 she would find it” but she is not able to count to 4 correctly but she could show on her hands 80% of the time.

She can recognise letters around 15 correctly but will not say the alphabet.

The teacher also mentioned she doesn’t hold a pen correctly but I have seen her hold a pen with pincer grip and use them in both hands correctly.

I’ll post an image of what educational based supplies we have in the Comments please tell me if we can add anything 🙂

Am I tripping 🤔

My friend wants me to watch her daughter 3 days a week 430 to 630 I told her I need $20 every time I watch her because I have 5 kids I have health problems am I wrong ? She saying she don't got it so I feel like I shouldn't do it then is that bad?

Do you feel like your husband/ partner puts the same level of care into parenting, cooking, cleaning etc when it’s his “turn” in comparison to you?

I’m having such a hard time lately because it’s become so embarrassingly obvious that my husband just doesn’t care as much as I do. I feel like he compares himself to his own dad or other men in his life who walked out or do the absolute bare minimum so in his mind he’s excelling, and that watching his mom struggle as a single mom doing everything growing up has conditioned him to be almost blind to the labor of women like it’s just expected. I’ve talked to him about this multiple times and it will get better temporarily sometimes but not long at all

Advice?

I don’t feel like a good mom. I’m a mom but I don’t feel as present as I need to be. I have an addiction to my phone ever since my son passed. Growing up it’s how I distracted myself and it’s just gotten worse. I use to be on my phone every now and then before but now it’s constant almost. I still play with my toddler but I get bored easily and I don’t look forward to doing stuff. I’m a couch potato who scrolls. I hate it. I recognize it and I hate it. I don’t go out anymore unless needed besides outback. I don’t bake desserts anymore. I feel lazy. Yes I have a therapist but I never say what I need to when I’m there and I have to bring my toddler so it just doesn’t work out how I imagine.

I’m trying to be the best mom I can be but I struggle. I struggle so hard and at this point I am disappointed in myself because I imagined so much for our life and I can’t even be the mom I need to be. Even my mom who lived in the living room and didn’t play with us at least was a present mom. I checked out. I hate it.

Nothing can top Bluey, but...

What other shows do you watch with your kids? It doesn't have to be for very young children; they LOVE the movies Jaws and Jurassic Park. And i live the 90's entertainment from my youth. Shows like Wild Kratts and Stinky and Dirty hold their attention, but they need something new because when they search for shows themselves, they find the worst! The screen is rampant with brainrot, where are those hidden gems??

Traveling Preschool Idea

I have a fun idea and wonder if it would even be something people would pay for! Will you help me?

I’m thinking of a “traveling preschool classroom” that would to come to your neighborhood once a week. Would you attend with your child (age 3-5)? How much would you pay for this?

A class would take place at a park or an outdoor space in good weather or a library in the winters. I’d love to have the classroom be housed in an old school bus!

A class would include circle time to practice social skills, a story, free play time, and an activity. My thought is that an adult would attend with the child and the class would last 1-2 hours.