Do you sometimes feel like people are having kids for all the wrong, selfish reasons??

I don't love the idea of having a baby just so you have a little doll to dress up and throw a bunch of gender stereotypes at(and what happens when you never have a girl lol), but I also don't think there's a selfless reason to have a baby. I think what matters is that you do your best when they're here 😊

I caught myself thinking of having another child because I wanted my son to have a sibling. Thankfully, I was mature enough to realise that deep inside I don’t really have a desire to have another child. I feel very content and complete with just having my son. And if the main reason for me to have another one is to give my first one a sibling, then that’s the wrong reason. Especially given that most of the siblings just constantly fight and there is absolutely no guarantee they even will like each other and will be friends.

Hmmm it's complex. I kind of wanted a best friend, to do everything with. That could be seen as selfish but I think it can't be that selfish, to get up early every day for 15+ years and give all your time and money, just for them to leave home. The things such as doing hair and exploring outdoors are great moments to look forward to and treasure, not selfish in my opinion.

That's a wild reason to have a baby....

Kids aren't best friends.

But they don't need to hope to God to be smart enough. Just put their trust in God, He will lead the way. They can have a beautiful life through all the suffering in the world, including imperfect parenting.