When did you know…?

When did you know you were done with your marriage?
It feels like a never ending cycle of me just ending up totally fed up and touched out. There’s no infidelity, no big dramas, just constantly being and feeling misunderstood and misheard. He is a good person, but he is not a great “match” for me as a husband I feel. No matter how many times I explain to him to stop being defensive, to just hear me out and not jump to assuming what I mean instead of hearing what I say I mean… he just doesn’t get it. Then a big argument, then we don’t talk and then he just apologises one random night and admits he’s wrong and wonders why I don’t care to hear it. I just feel exhausted with this, I don’t have the energy or the time to put in trying to explain emotional intelligence to a grown human being you know?
He is kind and gentle, and for a fiery person like myself he was what I needed for a long time. Since having our daughter I have been a much calmer, optimistic and kinder person in general. But I have also become less patient and tolerant for idiots and their bullshit behaviour. On top of struggling with libido postpartum I have less sexual attraction to him because of the way he goes about these things. He asks stupid questions, doesn’t understand how much I carry mentally. We’ve talked about therapy before, he is on board but I almost can’t even be bothered for it? I just don’t see the point when I don’t have the patience for the same conversations over and over again. Will therapy help us? Or am I too far done in this marriage? I don’t even know what life looks like outside of him, we’ve been together for 11.5 years. He’s a good father, our daughter loves him but I fear that the standards he unknowingly sets here is what she will settle for in a man and I just want so much more for my girl. I don’t want her to grow up with a numb mother, one who is just forever disappointed.
Is this what other women experience before they tap out? I am exhausted honestly. 🫩

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resentment

My husband and I have been together for 5 years with two kiddos.
He has become way too comfortable with everything. During our entire relationship he has cheated on me here and there on dating sites and I always found out. No dates since we had our firstborn 3 years ago. When I tell him, he uses the fact that we can’t put the kids anywhere since we’re not so good with both of our fams. It has never been about the kids or money, it’s about taking initiative. Every weekend he asks me what we should do. I honestly just taught him that I will stay no matter what and I don’t want that anymore. I want to step up for myself. I’ve come to a point where even if he starts doing better for a day or two, I resent him so much that I also just stop putting work into the relationship, he realizes that and goes back to his old ways. I’m tired of this game we’re playing. Everything feels forced. Every interaction. Every progress feels forced from both sides. I know we love each other so much but love does not matter when there is no respect. I don’t know what to do. I don’t wanna do this to my children, but being with him drains the life out of me to a point where I can’t even take care of myself. He doesn’t see that I’m losing myself, and what he doesn’t see at all is that he’s losing me.

My ex keeps giving her crap

So my ex husband and I split earlier this year and we have been working on an alternating weekends type schedule so we both get some time to do whatever and have 1 on 1 time with our 1 year old daughter. (He comes over to my house as he doesnt have his own place with space for her yet)

I went out today for some drinks and said to make her a cheese and spinach omelette with a side of vegetables and chicken for dinner .... I just got home and he told me he gave her chips and part of a saveloy sausage from the chippy... I said that's too much salt for her and he said 'no I didnt put any salt on it' -_-

What would you do in this scenario? I really dont want her eating crap and this isnt the first time he has gone directly against what I've said food wise

Starting solids

Hi 👋🏻
I have started solids with my little one and I just find it so hard to deal with.
1 week he refused sweet potatoes, avocado, carrot, apples the only thing he seem a little interested in was oats (blended) with breastmilk
I tried purées and sticks for him to discover and try himself but he just takes the first bite then gags 🤦🏻‍♀️ It looks so easy for other moms why am I struggling?

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So we went to this dinner party and everyone was there, some family friends, and my son who's 4 months old, started crying because he's not used to seeing all these people and cried for an hour straight and i left right after, i had fed him just before that, not even mine that it would've digested quickly. He cried halfway in the car, reached home and he slept.
I cried so much in the car after he fell asleep. Idk why? Idk if i felt embarrassed, idk if it was because i was hangry, idk if it was because i felt lonely, idk if it was because it took me time to get ready and i had to come early befor everyone else. I really dk. I came home i cried more and more, until my baby woke up, gave him to my husband and i called my mom like a baby, and ik she must be worried about me now, but if it felt so weird to me.