Should I be scared for whenever I have sex again?

I haven’t had sex since I was 5 months pregnant & my daughter is already 16 months old. I had a second degree tear as well haven’t even used a tampon or put my finger in there as I’m scared it might either hurt, feel weird or be very loose 🤦‍♀️

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Leaving a stay and play before the tidy up?

I take my daughter to a few stay and plays which are usually 2 hours long. Most of them finish when she would usually be napping and then it will take me a while to get her home and relaxed ready to nap etc. Is it rude to leave early? I think 2 hours is already a long time so I would prefer to leave after 1- 1.5houre but I don't want them to think I'm being rude

Co- sleeping 🥰💕

Can I just say to all those co-sleeping mama’s out there…… you’re doing one of the most natural things possible providing security, love, care and attention to not only your babies needs but your own 💕 It is so right yet you are lead to believe it’s so wrong! Why?

Soak in all the love and cuddles whilst they are small as one day they won’t need us like we need them 🥰💕

I hate the newborn age

Is it normal to actually hate the newborn phase? We are 8 days old so still very new to this and I’m a FTM. I thought I would LOVE having a newborn baby. I’m so overwhelmed and anxious if I’m getting anything right, if she’s happy if she’s fed if she’s gassy if she’s sleeping enough that I’m just not finding much joy in the newborn stage at all. I feel pretty lonely (even though my husband is the biggest support system and my absolute rock). Finding exclusively breastfeeding tricky and sort of wishing away these early weeks so we can get some sort of routine in place! Anyone else the same?

Ferber method..it works!

We did the Ferber method last night for my 14 month old son. He’s EBF and would wake several times in the night, he’s start off in his cot and end up in bed with me but need to lay on top of me, his dad would sleep ikn the sofa and it was just a lot for all 3 of us eapeacially since I’m now back at work and he’s at nursery. His dad has been begging for us to do the Ferber but I’ve said no every time because I can’t stand the crying, he’s my angel baby boy and I could never just let him cry for me. I just couldn’t do it. But yesterday, after rocking him for nearly an hour and singing the same song over and over I was just like no. We are doing it tonight. So I fed him, kissed him, cuddled him and said “you are a big boy now. You can do this, I love you and I am just next door. Sleep well my baby.” And left the room. He was screaming but more like shouting. I checked in at 3 minutes, 5 minutes, and then 10 minutes each time saying “you can do this my baby. I love you. Go to sleep” and in the second 10 minute interval I went to check and he was fast asleep. He slept from 22:11pm till 8:00am no wake ups, no night feeds! I was shocked!

First birthday party timing

What’s the best timing for a first birthday party? (Garden party at home)
Currently 9.5m old, on 2 naps roughly 9 & 13:00. Thinking 11:00-14:00? Is it likely they will drop to 1 nap by then?

At what age did your baby start using pillows and duvet?

Perhaps a silly question, but as a FTM, I'm not sure when I should introduce my baby to sleep with a pillow and duvet. He is going to turn 12 months soon and that thought just came to my mind- I have no idea when it should happen!

What tog number is the recommend one?