You can't drive and live rurally. At what point in pregnancy would you not want hubby going away overnight?

My husband has to do overnights with work sometimes to London which is like an 7 hour train journey from our home. At what point of pregnancy would you start to feel uncomfortable with him going away/request he decline the trip? I can't drive and live 50 minutes away from the nearest hospital.

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Is he allowed to decline the work?

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My husband has his last working away when i was 38 weeks pregnant, he was in Aberdeen and we live in leeds so it was about 7 hours away.

I can drive, but at that stage I was too big to be able to safely touch the pedals on the car, his parents where in Spain and his brother was also a few hours away, my family all live in scotland so I was stuck on my own. But honestly I wasn't that bothered. Id have just got a taxi if I really needed too.

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Like 32 weeks, issues can happen and you want him home just in case.

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Am I justified???

I have a friend of 12 years we met through work. We are both pregnant (2 weeks apart) . We have been supporting each other through the pregnancy. It has been great because she has kids and has done this pregnancy thing twice already and just nice to have someone who gets it. We live an hour distance from each other so we made a commitment to meet every couple of months.
We met last time in January end of 1st trimester celebration and we went to their place.
For our March meet up we agreed somewhere mutual to do some baby shopping and see each other on a Saturday.
I asked her about meet time several times and she kept on saying she needed to check with her partner
Last time I asked was Friday before our meet the next day at 8pm and she was still checking.
Saturday (day of the meet) morning I heard nothing but didn't want to come off nagging. Bear in mind I can see her posting stuff on socials. Nothing all of Saturday nothing Sunday nothing Monday then Tuesday 9pm I get a 2 sentence apology "sorry I forgot and sorry it took me till Tuesday to realise'

I have ignored the message because I am pretty angry. I just feel disrespected and that mine and my husband's time is not valued of theirs. She didn't even bother to give a good excuse ? Am I justified to be angry ?
I do hold a grudge so I can overreact

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How’s everyone handling going back to work?

Do you think it’s been easier to get back into a routine? Or is mom guilt killing you?

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Lonely

Hi I’m a stay at home mum to my 2 year old girlie. I love it although it is challenging at times. I’ve lost all my friends I only had really two close friends and they no longer keep in touch which is hard as I thought they would. I’m so lonely. Does anyone else feel this way?

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Serious Advice - Debt related

Hi all,

I haven’t really got anyone to discuss with so I wanted some advice.

I’m going to be starting a debt management plan with Stepchange as since having the baby I’ve been unable to earn enough money to make a difference in my credit cards - I’m essentially paying nothing with the interest being added etc.

Anyway, with the proposed solution, after paying ALL my necessities, and the debt plan back I’ll be left with £170 disposable.

Does that sound reasonable? Or should I lower my debt plan, to have more money to put away now, and then increase the amount in a couple years? My car finance is due to end in 3 years, so I’ll be able to basically move that money over to the debt solution and clear it quicker.

What do people think the best solution would be to do?

Increase my disposable ££ and lower my debt solution, or £170 be okay? (It may be more if I don’t spend as much as anticipated during the month)

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Need advice on my partner

Me and my partner have a mutual agreement that he cares for our baby over the weekend (including the night) as in the week hes home at funny hours due to work. If he decides he wants to go out with his mates I happily look after our little one but this weekend we got into abit of an argument I went bed and at around 11pm and woke up to him not at home and our baby crying, he had snuck out to go clubbing and left me with the baby, I wouldn't be bothered if he had told me before I went sleep so I knew to wake up with the baby but he didn't he also lied to me when he eventually got home at 4 that he had been round a mates. I've chose to try and move past it but I'm just wondering what other people would do in this situation x

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