Is this real?

My husband and my mother have had very little time to be on the up and up together so 10+ years by now definitely has takem its toll. Not just for them but me too. Being in the middle has such depleting care because im torn when they cant get along and i understand them both but im not a problem solver nor ate they kids....so i say that to tell the story. Im still in disbelief and my whole being is beyond rattled with the lack of breaks as a sahm during the day. If my mom had not reacted so strongly to this i could work around it but...
So we planned and took our first family trip together [8months pregnant me, hubby, mom, 2yodaughter] to Dragoncon in Georgia managed a deal with a new car[ultimately for my disabled mom but not approached that way] my name is on it as is hers. His is not. The trip is ok , fighting with my mom about car keys when she cant drive ever again has me stuck in a feels but she raises hell a few times over this. Hubby was at an airbnb with his friends i was at a cozy hotel with my mom and kid. Mom has history with men usually as proving to be like vermin around or to her so shes picked up a radar for my husband when he was 18[ im 30 and hes 30 now btw] because he had improper mannerisms for her household by not knocking approvingly.[didnt wait and walked in anyway to drop something off, i believe he didnt see her but she knew he came in and was mortified[she took a shower with the door opened but neither saw eachother. ....fast forward and more of this happens. Yes i heard how that sounds but look she comes to live with us 4 years ago and from then is whn it starts and shes keeping the light off using a night light or her phone and he doesnt knock because he sees no light[this is when its 2am] ive been in the bathroom with her and the lights on and he knocks , doesnt hear us speaking and ooens the door i stop him. This exact scenario can happen over and over and with w.e else looks like the right persona to match this behavior builds up and hes suddenly looked at now by her as a pedophile to our own children. She tells me months after seeing him pooping on a toilet while shes stands in front of him with the door open[no he didnt cover his parts for her because shes 2 yo and theres no physical contact. When he sees my mom coming in the house looking at him he closes the door then gets my daughter to walk out on her own[shes 3 now and still wont wear clothes much for her skin is sensitive to temperatures and she has bad eczema. Its eeird explaining all this but it is the story of my life im disbelief because i had to stop living with her when she told me THIS it was months before while i was pregnant and my uncle and sister also knew, no one else coming to me either] but i also had to stop living with her when i had an emergency c section for my 2nd and the next day when she comes to visit addresses first and only about how i call my mother in law mom.[i call them both mom] she threatens me about making a scene if i do it again in front of her. And i get home 5 days later she expects me to be moving around and handling new car errands ...then the whopper at that time was her threatening to report the car stolen because my husband left with it taking our daughter and his mom to an amusememt park she didnt want to go to and knew about, thinking i would go though...she has his number and did not want to talk to him or call him herself to express her concern. She never thought he respected her but he never thought she could hate him. Whether if hed help[and shes be uncomfy with proximity] or if he distanced more to avoid inducing stress he didnt get the medium that she could handle being around. Things could be calm then a conflict rises about some deep rooted other thing....im so tired exhauseted depressed and burntout from my own existence that what has been going on with them has never achieved some clarity. Am i supposed to believe my mom has a right to see my kids more now or that he would hurt our child like my dad did me [and even more so my older sister who wasnt his]?

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My in laws hate me

I had a falling out with my MIl earlier in the week and I’ve now discovered some horrible messages sent from her to my husband following this. Along the lines of that I’m controlling and that I’m from a broken home (I’m not) and that my previous mental health issues (an eating disorder that I’m 8 years recovered from) make me a certain way. She’s warned him to be careful of me. I’m so hurt, upset and angry. I can’t tell him that I’ve seen them but I don’t know what to do. We’ve been together 4 years and coming up to our first wedding anniversary with a 10 month old. The damage is done and I’ll never want anymore to do with them but how can we move forward when it is this broken and damaged. If his family now hate me. I’ve had a really tough week with my baby teething and I just want to walk out the front door and run away

Am I being too sensitive?

It’s my birthday today. My husband reassured me he would let his work know in advance he needed to be working locally so he could be home at a decent time for my birthday. The plan was a day to myself & then go out for dinner with my husband.

He now isn’t due to be home until around 8pm due to working 2.5hrs away. This is all because he didn’t inform work he needed to be home at a reasonable hour, despite me reminding him multiple times this week.

I’m now unable to book my favourite restaurant in case he experiences travel delays (my anxiety means I have to always book just in case). I know this isn’t a huge issue, but I’m pregnant & I’m craving food from this particular restaurant so much (and I’ve had BAD food aversions to a lot of food)!!

I also told him I’m upset because I’m going to be alone all evening. He said I should see my friends, but I don’t have the energy to. My friends also don’t know I’m pregnant yet as we’re waiting until our 12 week scan tomorrow…so being around them would be impossible when I’m feeling rubbish!

I’ve been alone all day (which doesn’t bother me), but being alone basically most of the evening too just makes me feel rubbish. It’s even more annoying because it was completely preventable. My husband has apologised and said he didn’t think working where he was working today was going to cause problems, but I’m just mad he didn’t initially listen and speak to his office out of precaution.

Am I overreacting (maybe from pregnancy hormones lol) or would this annoy you too?

1 month old - what should we be doing daily?

My son is about 4.5 weeks old. Most days he just sleeps on my chest most of the day, which I am okay with but I don't want to miss out on anything we should be doing. My son gets overwhelmed very easily so we usually do one "activity" a day max right now (such as bath, long walk, or having visitors). We do tummy time at least every other day, try to do every day. I read to him, sing to him, and of course talk to him. Is there anything else ya'll are doing with your LOs?

Leaving the house

Hey! Would love some advice.

I am almost 8 weeks postpartum, and had a tricky delivery, being in and out the hospital for the first 3 weeks (due retained placenta after my c section- hospital f-up, and issues with shortness of breath- which was investigated and anything serious was ruled out)

My husband has been back at work since week 4 and i have not left the house. I won’t leave unless he or someone is with me. Not even for a short walk. I have been out for appointments, but always with someone.

There isn’t much to do locally and it’s not a very nice area to go for a walk in.

I have friends with babies slightly older who want to meet up outside, but that would mean driving and finding a place i feel comfortable unloading baby from the car and having somewhere i can comfortably breastfeed.

I honestly don’t know if this is normal or if i should be pushing myself more.

Can you love being mum and at the same time cry because it’s difficult and you’re tired of it?

I’m trying to explain this to my husband but I don’t know how. I am crying all the time because It’s exhausting but I really love being my little ones mum. Can the two coexist or am I just an emotional mess?

Do you think cursive is important for your kids to learn?

In a world where everything is in printed letters now, cursive is going more and more out of style in schools. Im 30 and i only had 2 weeks of cursive my entire school career back then. I feel like cursive is important because i hate the idea of having to use a translation to read historical documents like the US Constitution or the Magna Carta. I want my kid to be able to read the documents as written instead of trusting a translation that could have wording changed or is just a summary.