I don’t know how to respond
i am going through a divorce and child custody battle and my ex texted me this after saying he doesn’t want our son to be with me for this summer. i don’t know how to respond to this
“Depending what is done between the time we have planned our sons birthday. You are more than welcome to come down here for it and me and my girlfriend have talked. If you come down you’re you can stay in his room with him so hotel fees won’t be needed. We will feed you. We’re doing this so you can be there for him”
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What does the custody paperwork say about who gets him for the summer? While this doesn’t seem rude it sounds a little bit like a flip flop from his original statement of not wanting your son with you this summer.
nothing is set in stone since we are still in the process with the divorce.
Im guessing custody hasn't been decided. If you're still waiting for mediation or a hearing, he's trying to look good, and possibly make you look bad (just went through this myself). Is there any reason why you can't go without his offer? They're going to look at "which parent is MOST likely to encourage a relationship with the other parent". Im not sure how id reply, but, it would depend on those things.
we have a court date for everything to be finalized hopefully- i just don’t want to be in the same house with his girlfriend and him - i feel like that is very awkward and uncomfortable
yeah he wants me to go there and stay with him and his girlfriend instead of our son coming here and seeing me and the rest of his family
I think, you should take him up on his offer as will make you look like the bigger person in courts ! If you make it difficult I have a feeling they will use it against you !
Whose birthday is it ? And I assume your son lives with you currently ?
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For context, my husband earns almost double what I do, and I'm wondering now if we should be managing shared finances in a way that's more proportionate to our earnings e.g. he puts in more as he earns more.
Is this the norm? I'm so curious as to what other couples do, but don't feel I could ask this to my friends and people I know personally as I find talking about money so uncomfortable! 😅
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Adults keep a firearm hidden in there dresser. Kid knows there’s a firearm in there, adults tell him to not touch it. Kid still grabs firearm. Adults scold the kid for disobeying.
WHO SCOLDS THE ADULTS???
Don’t have firearms unless you’re taking the proper precautions!!!!!!!
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Witch hunt...
This might cause problems. But I am sick of expressing an opinion that is DIFFERENT and it causing a witch hunt.
This app is supposed to be for support, expressing opinions and seeking advice and friendship.
Honestly, i just feel like telling someone to "come at me bro".
I didn't supervise all my daughter's naps and sleeps... light the torches
I don't use float vests etc for swimming lessons. I use rings when not doing swimming lessons... form a mob
I don't always cook fresh... tie the noose
I let my daughter play in the mud... STRING ME UP!!!
I raise my daughter the way I see fit she is not neglected or abused. She eats most things I give her. She is a happy and loved little girl. She is also the picture of health!!
She has slept in her own room since she was 5 months old.
We've practically stopped breastfeeding.
If you do not like my opinion or the way I do things... MOVE ALONG!! Or ask me why! I will happily answer. But for god sake, STOP THE WITCH HUNT!!!
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I've been really struggling because I've been remembering some things from my childhood that I had completely blocked out, regarding my dad. They're very strange memories, and I'm 100% sure they happened. No matter how I look at it, it's not appropriate behavior.
I have a very rocky and unstable relationship with him. This past year, after my baby was born, we discovered he's a drug addict, but he's always had problems with substance abuse. I don't know if I'd rather remember more and have to decide to distance myself from him (I don't know if I'm brave enough to say anything to the rest of the family) or if I should ignore these feelings. The idea of cutting him out of my life for some reason seems unthinkable to me. I don't know if I feel sorry for him? I'm having trouble processing my emotions about him.
TW: My most vivid memory is from when I was very little. It was normal in my home for my parents to walk around naked when it was hot, but I remember my dad getting out of the shower, and I stared at him and asked him what he had between his legs (I must have been 3 or 4 years old). He told me it was his penis and asked if I wanted to touch it, and I did. I remember it was hard. I don't remember what happened after that.
I'm so ashamed to even write this here. I've never told anyone, but my mom once said, laughing, that I had told a family dinner with a lot of people that I had touched my dad's penis. (this makes me feel like it probably wasn't a big deal, if my mom knew, but at the same time, she has a history of making excuses for his behavior, even when it was BAD.)
When I was a child, I was also abused by a neighbor. I also had hypersexual behaviors for someone so little, and I had problems with urinary incontinence until I was a teen. I also remember being afraid when my dad came home at night. All these things make me think that maybe more happened, and my brain blocked it out to protect me. He also slapped me when I threw tantrums; the last time he physically assaulted me I was 14. I remember being put in the shower and having ice-cold water poured over me, with my clothes on, when I was a kid. All of this was considered acceptable behavior in my house.
I don't know if I'm exaggerating or not. Thank you so much if you read everything. If someone would be so kind as to share their experience or opinion, it would help me a lot!!!
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